Feeling a bit lost

[TheFunnyPinkWriter]

I'm a mum of a 13 year old boy (14 in June) and 11 year old daughter (12 in July) and I feel like I've lost them.
My son went through 2 years of being an absolute knob but has come out of the other side and is actually a decent human most of the time. My daughter has entered in the being a knob stage so I know we just need to ride it out like we did with our son.

We are at the end of the Easter holidays and I feel like I've lost them completely. We've had a few days out in which they were pretty ungrateful and unresponsive (her more than him). They barely leave thier rooms other than to eat, even if they don't have thier phones or consoles.

I work in pastoral in a college so I am very aware its all normal teenage behaviour but I'm more worried about the impact it's having on me!

I've spent the last almost 14 years feeling totally overwhelmed and overstimulated, desperate to not have to entertain them and for them to be more independent but now it's happening, I hate it. I have the same holidays that they do so we are all at home together, I do pop out for a few hours here and there on my own but they aren't big enough to be alone all day by yet in my opinion. They barely leave the house unless they meet up with their friends (son has done it twice this holiday, daughter only once) or we have something planned.

I feel totally isolated and like I have noone to spend time with now. I'm absolutely dreading the summer holidays!

Please tell me I'm not the only one!

My gripe is that I have become an unpaid taxi driver, and like Uber I should expect to be summoned at any time! Oh and God forbid I should try and make any plans of my own that don’t fit in with 15 year old ds!

Weekends are one long round of chores. walking dog, dropping ds at football, laundry, cooking, picking him up from various places, next day rinse and repeat!

Forcing him to come out with Dh and I for a meal tonight, he will probably die of embarrassment 🙄
miss him being little, it was actually easier!

I'm at that stage now 😥. My son turned 13 in August, and I'm an alone parent since he was a baby. It was hard last night for Halloween. He was at a party. It was the first year we haven't done anything together. This is the start of it that I've been dreading 😥

I'm the same. My eldest goes out with friends all the time and essentially just sleeps here. We are boring to him.
My daughter does stay in but spends alot of time in her room/on calls. I force her to go out with me but shes at the stage shes embarrassed by parents and im almost forbidden from speaking in public so thats no fun!
Halloween son went with friend's, daughter stayed home and didn't want to do anything.
As above posters have said , its hard because they want you there to be a taxi etc and you can't leave them on their own all day every day which means you cant have your own life

In this boat too! I'm - decluttering (mostly primary school level activity materials that are no longer required) - researching my son's family history on both sides - making sure all our family photos are sorted, backed up, and that I know where they were taken, then downloading a selection and printing them for physical albums for each year - writing down some of my own memories (for future family history) - going through paperwork that has been mostly glanced at then filed for the last decade to see if anything would be better moved/adjusted/activated/cancelled etc. I'm thinking that this will cover the next few years and then we will be in a new stage where I can go out for longer.