She’s 15 and does everything she can to ruin things. She has tantrums like a 2 year old, gives us the cold shoulder, criticises us, tells lies not just small ones either, a lot I know is generally teenage behaviour but the stress she is causing me has me so worried and upset a lot of the time.
she has a boyfriend and vists his house regularly, she won’t bring him to meet us as she’s embarrassed of us. I since found out it’s because she’s told a ton of lies about us and doesn’t want us to meet and find out the truth. Serious things like not feeding her, forcing her to care for her siblings, not letting her leave her bedroom after a certain time, verbally assaulting her… I’m really upset she’d tell such nasty lies and her boyfriend believes it and tells her she can live with him, the boyfriends mum apparently thinks I’m a bad parent and wants her to live with them to keep her safe, they’re all fawning over her without knowing the truth, that she’s a horrible spoilt girl who wants everyone around her to be unhappy and be at her beck and call.
I’ve now found out she and her boyfriend have been having sex while the mum has been in the house, so she has taken it upon herself to allow this without considering the implications, she knows they are doing it and hasn’t come to me and I’ve found searches on the phone looking for pregnancy symptoms. I raised her to be wise about sex and contraception but it appears I’ve failed completely. Im disgusted the mum is condoning it and she has even told them she expects them to get married one day, awful pressure to put on infatuated teens.
I can’t trust anything she says or does, if she doesn’t end up pregnant and ruins her life she will say something that will wrongly get me in trouble instead. I don’t like being around her anymore, everyone tiptoes around her, I don’t recognise her anymore and I don’t know how to change it. I’ve tried to get through to her but she doesn’t care, she’ll text a friend that I’m a bad mum and other nonsense for attention minutes after a heart to heart and thinking we’re on track.
Im sick of it and I’m at a loss what to do. Can anyone help please?
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Ichangedmymindtwice · 13/04/2024 00:05
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