Worried about DS

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How can you help your teen (ds 16) who is upset but won’t speak to you about it?

He has friends at school and does go out during the week but seems to get left out at weekends. A group of friends were meant to be coming here tonight but have gone out somewhere else and didn’t even tell him.

He’s acting like it hasn’t upset him but I can tell it has. He’s so fed up being in on his own every weekend. He won’t speak to me though and I don’t know if I should try and ask him how he’s feeling about it or just back off so I don’t make him feel worse. Any advice would be great, thanks.

I'd tell him that he was loved and wasn't alone. I'd say that whilst I was working out what to do.

Yeah I’ll make sure to let him know that. I didn’t want him to be sitting in his room alone so we watched a film together. I hate seeing him upset but trying to hide it.

I’m really sorry, that’s shit behaviour tbh. Can you try and salvage the night for him by watching a film together with some snacks etc that he likes?
I find that my DS talks more when he’s in the car with me.
Maybe talk to his pastoral care teacher to see if he/she is aware of anything at school?
What about inviting one boy to do something with your DS, that you could take them to?
Bowling, laser tag; something like that?
Help him build up a good friendship?
Sorry, probably not that helpful.
I really feel for you both.
I have two DS of similar ages.

This breaks my heart, actually!
Big hugs for you both.

I just want to give him a big hug, but he’s still at that please don’t come anywhere near me stage 😆

I think I’m going to talk to him in morning and ask how he’s feeling about it all.

I think just telling them and making sure you are there is all you can do.

Can he talk to his dad about things?

How is he today? Was thinking about you both.

He seems ok today. We actually ended up having a chat last night and he was a bit happier.

I think instead of asking him how he feels , say how you'd feel if this happened to you. It might mean he'll say yes thats how I feel or he might say he's fine. But at least he will know you are trying to get it and it's OK to feel something. But anyway can see you've had a chat. It's hard being a teen!

Oh it's heartbreaking. after letting him know you are there for him, I would remind him of bigger and better things in his future and put on a confident air that things will get better and this is just a phase. Teens need to know this as their experiences can feel intense, they need us adults to give them some perspective