Ignored by dd

[Bananarama74]

My 14 year old dd does not want to spend any time with me. She will engage in brief conversations but she’s not really interested. She prefers her Dad at the moment and will chat to him and wants to hang out with him. He’s happy as she used to be closer to me. I am really pleased she is at least connecting with one of us but i miss her and feel really rejected. She’s mainly in her room but if she is in another room of the room in the house and I walk in to it then she leaves the room. Makes me so sad. I feel like there’s worse to come. Like she hasn’t started shouting or being too defiant yet and I wonder if we have that to come. I feel like a failure. It’s so hard .

[MaloneMeadow]

Do you know why she’s ignoring you? Have you actually asked her or spoken with her about it?

To be honest if there’s no other issues and she’s not being rude about it I’d be inclined to just leave her alone and let her come round in her own time. DD was quite distant from me at that’s age - it’s only natural as they begin to pull away and become more independent but now aged 19 has become far closer with me again and we have some great chats. For the most part we actually enjoy each others company, she loves going for lunch dates etc with me which is certainly not something she would’ve said in the early teen years!