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Nephews drug debt

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Smarties88 · 04/03/2024 06:46

My Nephew is 16, lives with my Dad and I've recently moved in to care for Dad. He admitted yesterday he owes 2k in drug debt & the dealer has said he is going to come to the house. Nephew's Dad asked him to move out last year after he got involved with some dodgy people & his car was set on fire. He now has no contact with his Dad and Dad has blocked him on social media. My Dad said he could live here but grounded him. It turns out he has been lying about attending college & taking coke at his mate's house.
I'm unsure if I should go to the Police or help my Nephew pay back the debt. I can't afford it all but we could get 1k between us. Nephew is going to the GP for help. Dad is very vulnerable & suffers from paranoia, delusions & hallucinations so I haven't told him what's going on yet but know I need to do this asap. I don't know what to do for the best. Should I go to the Police, contribute towards paying back the debt, ask Nephew to move out & pay a deposit for the halls at his college or pay for private addiction support for him? Has anyone else been in this situation?

OP posts:
BarbieKenough · 12/06/2024 12:52

Baaliali · 12/06/2024 12:49

All I’m going to say is friend of friend, parent of child is a police officer, paid her child’s drug debt on the advice of her superiors because literally nothing else would protect the family from the situation. It is naïve to assume that the police can protect people who build up a drug debt.

This is partly true also. If this DD is smart, the police won’t catch him. If he’s a thick twat who doesn’t know what he’s doing then you stand a chance.

But nephew needs help. No idea where in the world you are OP but Narcotics Annoymous website is a good place to start

BarbieKenough · 12/06/2024 12:53

If you send me a pm with where you are/post here I can make some enquiries for you.

mrX2 · 05/07/2024 13:53

Baaliali · 12/06/2024 12:49

All I’m going to say is friend of friend, parent of child is a police officer, paid her child’s drug debt on the advice of her superiors because literally nothing else would protect the family from the situation. It is naïve to assume that the police can protect people who build up a drug debt.

To the author or that post.

Please delete your post immediately.

The police do take this sort of thing seriously and they can protect people. Telling people that they are "naive" to believe this will not magically make it true.

What you wrote could cause someone to pay money to some random individuals who are making threats against them or worse still fail to report it to the police and get the help they need and that is very dangerous!

To anyone who read the post I am replying to.
IGNORE IT WITH EXTREME PREJUDICE!
if you are being intimidated to pay money do not pay - it will just make them defend more and more from you - go to the police immediately, help is available.

Sidebeforeself · 05/07/2024 14:06

Hi OP. Don’t want to add to your troubles but also these people don’t necessarily see debts as settled even if he pays off the full amount. They know he’s vulnerable and can prey on that to get him anything else that they want. It’s not a business transaction..its horrible people who will take advantage of any person or situation.

mrX2 · 05/07/2024 14:17

Sidebeforeself · 05/07/2024 14:06

Hi OP. Don’t want to add to your troubles but also these people don’t necessarily see debts as settled even if he pays off the full amount. They know he’s vulnerable and can prey on that to get him anything else that they want. It’s not a business transaction..its horrible people who will take advantage of any person or situation.

Well said.

berlowitz · 14/05/2025 06:18

No crime? Dealing drugs is not a crime in your State?!

berlowitz · 14/05/2025 06:24

FunLurker · 04/03/2024 06:50

How bad is his addiction? Is it only coke or anything else. The dealers have to be paid, even if police are involved their want their money and will put charges on it. The police will do very little as at the moment a crime isn't taking place. Not saying they won't want to help, just not sure how they can

No crime? Dealing drugs is not a crime in your State?!

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