My 18 year old dd, who is a student living away at uni has been invited away with her new bf and bfs parents and family in Autumn for a short city break abroad. His parents want to book the holiday quite quickly and are offering to meet the cost almost in full and said she could make a contribution and will pay for her meals etc whilst away. She has met them a few times and they really like her, but she feels uncomfortable accepting this offer, especially as it is a new relationship of a few months and a lot can happen between now and the planned holiday. If they break up and his parents have paid for the holiday then she would feel awful.
She has a job, but has said to me that she would prefer to use the money to go on a holiday with her bf by themselves in the summer. She has tried to politely decline and explain she would not feel comfortable accepting the offer and does not have the money to finance it herself, but feels that this may have been misconstrued that she does not like the family. His family go on lots of holidays and are financially extremely well off. We could not afford to reciprocate and include her bf in any similar financial arrangement with our holiday plans and are not in a financial position to cover the cost of the holiday in full for her to go with his family (which would amount to around £400). I worry that it is placing too much pressure on a relatively new relationship if they pay for her to go now. I am also a bit annoyed that they have placed her in this dilemma. If this was an established relationship and my dd knew his parents better then my dd would feel better about accepting their offer, but they don’t really know each other after only a few times of meeting each other. She has asked for my advice and the situation has made me feel awkward too. What should I say to my dd?