Dd has social anxiety. She saw a therapist and this was really successful in helping her to moderate her emotions and she has really worked hard to regain her confidence and self esteem.
She goes out with us as a family and is fine- even going to busy pop concerts, gigs etc.
A good friend has invited her out for the day during half term and she’s already feeling really anxious about it. She said she doesn’t feel that the friend really wants her to go (I think I can 100% say this isn’t true and I’ve said this) and she’s worried about making small talk with the parents of her friend. I’ve tried reasoning with her and ultimately said she has to make the choice to go or not but I feel this is a pattern. She finds something hard and won’t push against it. I said we can come up with topics to talk about in the car and the activity will be structured so she won’t need to talk once they are there.
any wise words?