My daughters behaviour is just getting progressively worse, she is 12 although not quite a teenager the behaviour and attitude is not your typical pre-teen.
Today I feel is the final straw and I just can't take any more. She has taken to verbally abusing me and she has kicked me a few times, she shouts, screams, slams and kicks doors and is vile to her older brother, she calls me names, says I am ugly and no one likes me, says the same to her brother swears at him kicks his bedroom door, she won't sit at the table with us at meal times, she just takes her food upstairs, when she does agree or listen that she needs to eat at the table she sulks. She demands my attention to says she needs help with things like getting ready in the morning, (which up until 6 months ago she was very independent) she won't walk to school its a 15 minute walk and I end up driving her just to get her there as her attendance hasn't been great, 86%. This then makes me late for work.
School is fine. She has started year 7 and has a nice group of friends and hasn't had any problems at school apart from the odd detention for being late, she gets her homework done, but only when myself or my partner sit with her, she is so controlling. When we have these outbursts which are getting more regular, I do the usual take her phone off her tell her she can't go out with friends but she will start screaming at me, I try to get her to calm down but I also worry about my neighbours hearing world war bloody 3 going on!!
I think its my fault as I have been too soft on her, I am a single parent and have them more or less full time, their dad left 8 years ago, she sees her dad but its a bit add hock and will often say she doesn't want to go, I know when she get there its fine as has a nice relationship with her younger half siblings and her step mum is fine, there have been ups and downs co-parenting but I feel I have always put them first. And often I will say if you don't want to stay over at her dad and step mums its fine stay at home, I have always encouraged both my kids to talk problems through, but I think the gentle parenting has made it worse. My partner of 5 years is supportive but we don't live together out of choice as we felt a blended family wasn't the route we wanted again always putting the kids first.
I am sorry for the long post I just had to get it off my chest, if anyone has any advice, please let me know I want to help her with her anger management, I appreciate its hormones as well she started her periods a year ago, but its just so hard when she is verbally abusing me. :(
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