How often does your daughter contact you at uni?

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My daughter leaves for uni this year, a good few hours away?, and just wondered how often you guys hear from your kids? She says she won't want to contact much. I'm dreading it!

Little bits quite a lot. She's abroad also in her second year.
We both like a handhold when we are doing something expensive/ complicated on line so flights etc we do together as she does her own from a different destination.
Otherwise when there some complicated adulting to do we will get a call.

Dd1 came home weekly as kept her job at home. Uni 1.4 hours away. Called 2-3 times a week

Dd2 uni 1 hour away. Came home holidays called once a week.

Ds uni 2.5 hours away. Home part of holiday calls once a week roughly

Dd3 uni 5 hours away. Rarely calls home holidays

They ALL. Participates in the family WhatsApp chat a check in is asking for a dog update. This is several times a week

Now dd1 has moved put for good to live with her fiancé we hear from her once a week roughly.

They are all within what I feel is normal.

WhatsApp was great, we'd get pictures of meals cooked. The odd video call. We'd send back pictures of dogs, cat, weather, walks etc. he'd come home twice a term on the train. I'd send a parcel now and again.

Now he's working has a car living with his girlfriend we still send messages. Talk now and again.

Each of my dc have been different from one another.

However, what works best for me (with the one who can go for ages without answering me) is having different WhatsApps with different people in (just me and her / me, her and her Dad / the 3 of us plus siblings / I know my 3 dc have one without parents / I know the 'cousins' have one / we have one on each side for the wider family.
That way, she can opt in to still be in the loop on family 'stuff' ('news' seems an exaggeration) and I can see (or check with my other dc) if she is still alive even if she isn't answering me.

Also, I do my best to try not to ask her questions or remind her to do things (perceived as nagging). I try to just drop in things like a picture of the family pet, or I mention something about what is happening in a TV prog we both watch or to do with the sport she follows - just as you would chat at home.