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Dd being hassled by a boy at college

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MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 28/01/2024 21:42

She was friends with him at school until it became clear that he wanted a relationship with her. She’s gay so that wasn’t going to happen. He didn’t take rejection well and ghosted her.

Unfortunately we then discovered that he’d taken the same course as her at college. He’s obviously still upset with her because he’s begun to talk about her to her new friends behind her back.

She’s now very anxious about going into college. She’s worried about being ostracised by the new friends she’s made. She doesn’t know what he’s said but one of the girls has already blocked her online so clearly he’s said something.

She’s spoken to the pastoral tutor at college who’s going to speak to her when she goes in. I’m just worried about what might happen. Her college is thirty miles away and she has a mile walk to and from the train station to the college and he takes the same route.

I could fucking scream. She was bullied in school to the point where we had counsellors for an eating disorder and threats of self harm and suicide. She’s done so well in the last year and now it’s all going wrong again. This was meant to be a fresh start.

What else can I do to help her? We’ve talked about coping strategies and telling him to basically fuck off and leave her alone. I’m hoping the college can warn him off. I hope the girls don’t take any notice of him and don’t reject her. I don’t think she could cope with it.

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CadyEastman · 29/01/2024 19:10

That sounds so incredibly difficult. Does she have someone that she can walk to and from the Station with?

Is there a friend she can talk to?

MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 29/01/2024 21:06

Thank you for answering.

She does have a friend who she takes the train with and walks in with each day so at least she’s not alone.

I just feel so worried about her. Honestly, the shit she went through at school last year and this was supposed to be a fresh start. She’s really enjoying the course as well. She’s so shy and anxious about talking to people, if this boy alienates anyone against her she’ll never stand up for herself.

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