I have 2 older dds. 16 and 14.
14yo is very hard work. She’s rude, aggressive and can be quite intimidating.
My partner (not their dad) had a go at her the other night for her language in front of 4yo ds. The c word was used amongst many others. She also threatens to hurt him to his face.
Jealousy is obvious. He lives with both parents. She is never excluded.
Their actual dad isn’t bothered and blames me for their behaviour. I’ve asked him if she can stay with him for a while so we can all reset. He said no. He has them for two nights a month.
If you are in a split family, how involved does the step parent get? Dp got a barrage of abuse when he said something but I’m actually glad he did. I felt like I wasn’t parenting alone for the first time.