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To cancel concert because of attendance and bad attitude

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C36M · 15/01/2024 19:11

My 16 year old daughter is in sixth form (year 12). She’s very bright, and did very well
in her GCSEs. I think this has given her a false sense of security with her ALevels as she didn’t put much effort into her GCSEs.

A few months ago she begged me to book Pink Pantheress concert tickets for February 2024. The concert is in London and falls on a school day, we live in Plymouth so would have to travel. I told her I would book the tickets, as long as her attendance at school stayed high (because she’d need the Friday off of school for the concert). She promised she would go to school every day.

Fast forward to now, her attendance at school is 78% she has been poorly a couple of times, but other times she just isn’t attending lessons. When I raise this with her she just gives me a lot of attitude.

I told her yesterday I would cancel the concert tickets if she didn’t start to improve her attendance, as she won’t be able to take the Friday off. Well today she skipped two lessons, she said it was to prepare for an exam she has tomorrow, but she has already had a lot of time to prepare for this. The school have called us in for a meeting now, and it’s causing a lot of stress. I want to cancel the tickets but think I’ll feel guilty. What would you do?

OP posts:
mum11970 · 15/01/2024 19:13

It’s a waste of time threatening to cancelling the tickets if you don’t follow through

Justanything86 · 15/01/2024 19:14

You need to cancel them. This is what you said you would do so you have to follow through. It was her own choice.

WhatNoUsername · 15/01/2024 19:15

Cancel the tickets. You can't threaten and then not follow through. She'll have absolutely no respect for you and won't believe anything you say in the future. I don't know why you are feeling guilty. She's the one who hasn't kept up her end of the bargain.

Can you sell them so you don't lose the money?

GavinHendersonsChipPan · 15/01/2024 19:16

Don’t make threats you can’t follow through

you’ll feel bad? You’ll feel worse when she bombs her a-levels due to not knowing any of the material

toughen up

C36M · 15/01/2024 19:18

Yeah I bought them through Ticket Master, they can resell the tickets. It’s such a shame, because I was looking forward to the mother and daughter time too. But you are all right thank you

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notacooldad · 01/08/2024 15:42

I know you've already answered but I'll add my voice agreeing with those who say you can't make a threat without following through.
You had an agreement but she didn't keep to her side of the deal.

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