i made a massive mistake of letting a 13 year old girl have a mobile and access to the internet. I have a 15 year old girl who is very open with me and shared everything so i just assumed the younger one would be the same. We talk about boys and crushes etc but she has always said she doesn't like anyone etc. I've never given any reason to lie to me.
I've found out inappropriate photos and conversations have been sent and she's had boyfriends - i say boyfriends but they are all online only as she's in an all girl school and doesn't socialise outside the house as we are in a different country and not really the norm here.
so far i've made here delete everything - all photos, apps, made her delete all her accounts completely and put parental controls on her devices. She knows i can see everything she is doing now. i can't take her phone because of access to school books and work but can limit her screen time and monitor it.
I just feel so stupid and angry with myself that I trusted a child to do the right thing. She's just a child. I don't know how to move on from this. Our community and culture is really harsh on girls who do things like this. I do not support this, i just want to protect my baby and should've done better.