Tell me it'll be ok in the end!!

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DS is yr11, almost 16. I spend my time negotiating huge mood swings ( he goes from wanting to curl up with me and watch Netflix to hating the air that I breathe) and total apathy around homework and revision (he has a schedule, he follows it with a LOT of cajoling).

He's paying lip service to researching and finding an apprenticeship - I have been clear I will 100% support but I'm not doing it for him.

He's on track for 5s and 6s so even if he does no revision I think he will be ok. Also he's applied to college as a back up so if he doesn't get an apprenticeship he'll have to do that instead. Im inclined to just take a step back for my own sanity and see how he gets on with a lighter touch.

Anyone else in the same boat?

(And before anyone comes at me telling me I HAVE to make him, he's 6ft 6, solid muscle and as stubborn as.. me )

Cont..

And the sad thing is, with effort he could get 7s and 8s. But he's just completely done with school. So I'm just doing my best to keep him on an even keel and through the exams.

Rightly or wrongly I applied for my sons apprentiship and did absolutely everything even researching and then prepping him for interview. The whole thing stressed me out. He started in October and is doing well. He wouldn't have done it on his own and he would still be procrastinating now. It's not right that I did it but it got the result I wanted. I made it clear I won't be applying for future jobs for him so he has to either stay there forever, which is fine with me or apply for other jobs.

That's exactly how I feel as he's just clueless really. But at 15 I'm not sure what else I'm expecting tbh. 🤔

I'm swinging between "I'll just sort it" and "he needs to sort it". Ideally I'd like him to go to college even if it's only for a year as he will make so many contacts there and they will support him so much more than I ever can. Starting an apprenticeship later makes no difference as he's going to be working for many many years!!

Enjoy the moments that he wants to curl up with you and chill🤗they sort themselves out in the end so long they know you love them and always have their backs!
Three adult sons, last one did rubbish with A levels after straight A student prior, like you say 'just had enough of school', didn't want to go to uni like his brothers, no real goals, but after a few rubbish jobs he took himself off to do an access course, then uni and now a nurse. I think boys take longer to mature and quite frankly how many of us knew what we wanted to do as a teenager, you cannot push them just need to be supportive until they are ready/have the motivation to take action for themselves🥰

Thank you. That's great advice.

They don't tell you about this at parent school..