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angel97rivers · 2023-12-28T23:51:01+00:00

Today i had to pick up my youngest daughter(13)from a “sleepover”(a coverup for a party😒)in which she was drunk.i couldnt believe my eyes.on the way home i was just thinking what to do with her and then it hit me that she might be affected by the alcohol forever.im scared.can someonw please tell me if the alcohol will have lasting effects on her brain and if shes going to be in danger.is an appropriate punishment taking away phone,banning sleepovers for a while and making her watch videos on effects of alcohol?please anyone i am desperate my little girl needs help.❤️

OnTheBoardwalk · 29/12/2023 14:38

Yeah be wary of the parents. We all used to have sleepovers at Nicky's house aged 15 as her, very creepy dad with wandering hands, used to buy us booze

Pieceofpurplesky · 29/12/2023 14:40

DS went to a party at 13 and the mum provided loads of alcohol. I had always let DS have a sip of he wanted to try and he didn't have any at this party - the two parents who were really strict and never let their kids try booze/eat chocolate etc had to collect kids who were wasted, being sick etc.
My point with this is don't make it the enemy, use it to educate not alienate.
DS is 20 now and at university - his friends all joke that he is the sensible and sober one.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 29/12/2023 14:42

Pieceofpurplesky · 29/12/2023 14:40

DS went to a party at 13 and the mum provided loads of alcohol. I had always let DS have a sip of he wanted to try and he didn't have any at this party - the two parents who were really strict and never let their kids try booze/eat chocolate etc had to collect kids who were wasted, being sick etc.
My point with this is don't make it the enemy, use it to educate not alienate.
DS is 20 now and at university - his friends all joke that he is the sensible and sober one.

Except your approach has been scientifically proven to be more likely to result in alcohol dependent adults 🤷‍♀️

MaloneMeadow · 29/12/2023 16:26

OchonAgusOchonOh · 29/12/2023 14:42

Except your approach has been scientifically proven to be more likely to result in alcohol dependent adults 🤷‍♀️

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From personal experience with DD the friends with super strict parents who ‘didn’t allow’ alcohol were the ones sneaking out and getting wasted to the point that they passed out cold in random parks and fields at any chance they could get. Even now at 19/20 those friends can’t go on a night out without nearly ending up in hospital as due to their new found freedom they simply do not know when to stop.
The friends with parents who properly educated them and allowed for controlled experimentation in order to know their limits have grown up to be far more responsible drinkers.

Flyhigher · 29/12/2023 16:26

Don't overreact. But yes. Take away the phone for a bit. Talk to her carefully. Don't get really angry. A lot do this at this age.
It actually stops later. In year 10 they drink at parties. One girl is probably sneaking in drink. Maybe stealing it from parents.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 29/12/2023 16:29

Not ideal clearly but I’m sure as a one off she will be OK.

Other parents sound irresponsible however.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 29/12/2023 16:59

MaloneMeadow · 29/12/2023 16:26

From personal experience with DD the friends with super strict parents who ‘didn’t allow’ alcohol were the ones sneaking out and getting wasted to the point that they passed out cold in random parks and fields at any chance they could get. Even now at 19/20 those friends can’t go on a night out without nearly ending up in hospital as due to their new found freedom they simply do not know when to stop.
The friends with parents who properly educated them and allowed for controlled experimentation in order to know their limits have grown up to be far more responsible drinkers.

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There are always exceptions. They do not disprove the research.

Large scale scientific studies have completely debunked the notion that controlled early drinking leads to fewer drinking issues. The studies show that early drinking, regardless of whether it is bushing with friends or facilitated by "cool" parents, leads to a higher risk of alcohol abuse as an adult.

3milyJ · 29/12/2023 21:09

She's not going to be permanently affected by a few drinks at 13 and most likely this won't be the last time she has too much to drink in her life either. It's not a big deal, don't make a big deal out of it with her.