My dd is 17 and the changes in her over the past year have been huge. She met a girl and started a relationship which is fine and it to us was a normal teenage relationship maybe slightly intense . Fast forward a year . Relationship has ended ,now she is Muslim ( no problem as I'm an atheist and find all religion baffling but a personal choice). But still with this girl as friends . Comes home but stays with her and her mother. I support her financially still ,she works part time as well.
Now is going away at Christmas which is where I lost it . Not because of any relgion or we make a massive deal about it . I'm just so hurt that she would do that . Her excuse was but they've bought me a ticket. Other family members got involved and now the whole situation has exploded.
She didn't go to work , I wanted to drop her off but she said she'd walk. I think deep down I knew she wouldn't go. She now is refusing to cone and stay even for a night. Saying what was said to her was awful.
I have spoken to the police and there is nothing they can do . He was so apologetic as I was sobbing down the phone.He said nothing I have told him would give them cause to call round , at 17 she is well within her rights to leave and make her own decisions. I just want to support her and know she is ok.
I have offered to pay for counselling so if there are any underlying issues she can let them out I have also spoken to college safe guarding and they have done the same.
My parents offered her a room there. But as some of the things said were from my Mum she has said no.
Is there anyone who has been through something similar and can offer advice. I'm all cried out tbh. I miss her so much I feel like my heart will break.