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How do I get my 15 year old daughter to wear a jacket?

26 replies

dave083 · 16/12/2023 16:07

She never wears a jacket to school. Most of the time she only wears a short sleeved shirt with a sleeveless sweater, no matter how cold it is. She always claims she's not cold, even though she is clearly shivering and has goosebumps.

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Hiphopopotamonster · 16/12/2023 16:09

Why does it matter? She’s 15. If she would rather be cold than wear a jacket, surely that’s her choice

lunaticfringer · 16/12/2023 16:09

Disclaimer - my DD is 6. But the fastest way to get her to do anything is to completely remove any pressure. The less I fuss the more sensible she is. Worth a try?

Iskpugkk · 16/12/2023 16:10

Honestly I’d leave her to it; the more you push then the more it becomes an issue that she can’t back down over. Make sure she has access to a jacket (plain black short puffa seems to be “in”) and Tell her it’s her choice if she freezes and you won’t be sympathetic to it.

gamerchick · 16/12/2023 16:10

You can't. I gave up and got some warm trendy waistcoats so at least their bodies were warm.

vodkaredbullgirl · 16/12/2023 16:11

That's teenagers for you, they think they are invincible.

Precipice · 16/12/2023 16:12

How do you think you can? If she's going to and from school by herself, she can dress or undress as suits her. You can only force her to take the jacket along with her.

oldestmumaintheworld · 16/12/2023 16:12

You don't. Ignore it. Mine didn't wear a coat from age 5 to 17. I stopped buying them in the end. Ditto tights, pajamas, slippers.

girljulian · 16/12/2023 16:16

You can’t. I never wore a coat between the ages of 11 and 20.

WhereIsMyCupOfTea · 16/12/2023 16:18

She's a teenager, they do daft things like not wearing a coat in cold weather. Ignore it, she'll wear one when her mates do/someone says it's the done things to wear one/it somehow becomes fashionable

mumtumok · 16/12/2023 16:18

I was the same at her age , what coat has she got? Is it trendy up to date ? Mine used to make me look 5 years old

Duvetdweller · 16/12/2023 16:25

Unless it’s a black north face puffer jacket you’ve got no chance

ErrolTheDragon · 16/12/2023 16:29

You need to have them catch a school bus at about 7:30, in a seriously subzero cold snap such that the bus occasionally freezes up and is at least half an hour late.
We had a very cold winter when dd was in yr 8, never mind a jacket she'd wear an actual coat in winter. Grin

And then she nicked my good packable berghaus rain jacket off me for other times of year - this may require living in a rainy part of the country.

MuffinCoffee · 16/12/2023 16:32

My 11 year old doesn't. Despise very cold mornings on public transport plus a 15 mins walk doesn't put on the coat. I have bought some thermal vests for this very reason.

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dave083 · 16/12/2023 20:09

I know I should just let her do but I hate to think of her freezing her ass when she could just wear a jacket. Yesterday she was out with her friends which where all wearing hoodies btw till 7pm in wet and windy 5°C in just a thin short sleeved shirt. When she came home she was shivering and immediately wrapped herself in a blanket.

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Marblessolveeverything · 16/12/2023 20:10

Leave her be, it's a rite of passage. I still remember falling in hot pants on ice 😂. She will be fine.

Onelifeonly · 16/12/2023 20:12

Mine were the same about coats / jackets at that age, but luckily had a uniform necessitating a blazer. But that's all they would wear - thin shirt and blazer, no school jumper or cardigan even though they were also part of the uniform. They survived and wear coats now though a hoodie is the default often - even in the rain.

TwoMoreBoxesJayne · 16/12/2023 20:15

She is 15 you need to start letting her make her own decisions. It's a whole shift of mindset that will help you and your daughters relationship slowly move to an adult and (young) adult relationship rather than you being Mum

Devilsmommy · 16/12/2023 20:16

Marblessolveeverything · 16/12/2023 20:10

Leave her be, it's a rite of passage. I still remember falling in hot pants on ice 😂. She will be fine.

Aaaah the 90's🤣😆🤣😆

Payakan · 16/12/2023 20:18

You don't .

She is 15, not 5.

herewegoroundtheblueberrybush · 16/12/2023 20:35

Could you get her a heat tech vest from Uniqlo? They aren't thick like normal thermals so more comfortable, it might help her stay warmer if she insists on no jacket.

enjoyingscience · 16/12/2023 21:09

Like everyone else says, you can’t, and there are honestly better things to spend your energy on.

AlanJohnsonsBeemer · 16/12/2023 21:13

I make sure they have a coat they like and is suitable, although I have lost the battle on it having a hood. Then it is up to them

squeekychicken · 16/12/2023 21:16

It wouldn't be a battle I'd have. She's 15. She knows if she's cold or not. Could be a sensory thing. Does the have any other sensory issues?

MajesticWhine · 16/12/2023 21:18

My 13 yr old rarely wears a coat and she has to walk quite far to school. I've given up.

ObliviousCoalmine · 16/12/2023 21:23

Mine does wear a coat, but only the very specific one she wanted (found it on Vinted thankfully). It was the only way it would happen.

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