how would you deal with this?

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fizzypop100 · 07/12/2023 00:33

Ds is 17. He is talking and gaming late and I'm shattered. I keep going to his room and telling him firmly it's not acceptable and he needs to stop. It just continues. He's volatile and has ADHD. If I cut the internet at a certain time he's foul

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Mumofteens4892 · 07/12/2023 23:43

Our 16yo stays up long after we are asleep. Then we find him asleep on the sofa every morning with all the downstairs lights and tv still on. It is driving us absolutely NUTS.

Our electricity bill has gone up significantly as a result. When you have an answer, please tell me!

He's not in school or college and is pretty much nocturnal 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️.

stomachameleon · 08/12/2023 00:07

I miss this kindly to you both.... I have three sons....why are you letting them get away with it? Volatile or not? This is your house and you need to set boundaries not except excuses.

@fizzypop100 the wifi goes off at 11?
@Mumofteens4892 so what is he doing as he has no routine? You need one to prepare him for college or work.

Come on. I know it's hard and they will bite back but really?

And before you ask two of mine were asd. I took the router to work with me on more than one occasion . You can do this :)

flowerchild2000 · 08/12/2023 00:17

stomachameleon · 08/12/2023 00:07

I miss this kindly to you both.... I have three sons....why are you letting them get away with it? Volatile or not? This is your house and you need to set boundaries not except excuses.

@fizzypop100 the wifi goes off at 11?
@Mumofteens4892 so what is he doing as he has no routine? You need one to prepare him for college or work.

Come on. I know it's hard and they will bite back but really?

And before you ask two of mine were asd. I took the router to work with me on more than one occasion . You can do this :)

This 100%

Perfectly said.

WotNoUserName · 08/12/2023 00:33

When mine were younger the wifi went off at 11. I told them this was so that everyone could sleep without getting distracted by games, tv, phones, etc. Two of mine are autistic, and one also has adhd.

They moaned. I told them I'd turn it off earlier if they kept on at me. They know me well enough to know I meant it.

They're older now (24, 21, 19, 16) so it's on all the time, but the youngest knows he has to get off screens at 10 on school nights.

sprigatito · 08/12/2023 00:38

One of mine tried this on when he was about 16. After a few nights of asking him to tone it down, I went in and gave him a really loud, embarrassing lecture which all his gaming buddies heard through the microphone. I went back to bed and left him having the piss ripped out of him. He stfu after 10pm after that. He's 19 now and wouldn't be so inconsiderate.

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