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Anyone have any experience complaining about High School?

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MrsWalterWhite · 27/11/2023 21:06

Little bit of a back story. My DD is 15 and in Year 10.
She was friends with a girl last year which fizzled out.
Anyway, she asked for another girl from school for a sleepover this weekend to which I agreed. Whilst here, this friend was getting messages from the girl who my DD used to be friends with.
The messages were along the lines of why are you sleeping at her house when she was part of the reason I was in hospital! A voice note then came through from the girls sister telling my DD to go and die in a ditch.
At this point I intervened and telephoned the girls parents.

They told me that their DD had taken an overdose last year, not because of my DD but a multitude of things that happened at home and school. They stated they had a meeting with school and that after their fallout and the overdose, they separated the girls.

I was not informed of this, all I was told was that my DD was moving classes (down a set) for educational purposes, then at parents evening they told me she was moving back up to her sets as she was light years ahead.
At the time my DD was very upset that she wasn't good enough and that she was rubbish academically, which isn't the case, school didn't tell me the real reason, that the girls had a fallout and they wanted to separate them.

I have had a lengthy conversation with the girls mum today, as my DD was also under the mental health team last year and I don't want her spiralling again either.

Im angry at the fact school haven't told me the full truth about her having to move classes and further that this girl is stating her overdose was due to daughter and telling other girls this, when her Mum has told me it wasn't my daughter, there is no evidence of my daughter sending messages or anything to this other girl which is nasty!

Any advice?

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Meetthecats · 29/11/2023 07:25

Definitely talk to the school and I’m saying that as a teacher. I understand the school couldn’t give you details last year but they didn’t need to lie to you / your daughter and make her question her academic skills.
Ask for a meeting and go in to discuss.

DustyLee123 · 29/11/2023 07:27

Due to confidentiality they couldn’t tell you, but what they should have done is move the other girl. It’s disgusting what they have done to your DD.

Dizzydials · 29/11/2023 07:30

I agree you need a meeting with the school.

It is very unfair they moved your DD down a set to separate her from another child, they should have been clear about why this was happening. It also needs to be made clear that your DD isn’t responsible for the other girls mental health.

Mumdiva99 · 29/11/2023 07:34

Don't go in all guns blazing. The other mum has told you her version of the story. There is the other side too, and then there is the truth. Listen first. The mum might not be correct in what she says.

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