Pornography talk

[CookieFryingPan]

DS is 13 and hasn’t reached the grumpy reclusive stage (for now 😬). We talk a lot and recently it’s become clear he has a crush on a girl in school and has started to get an interest in girls in general. I think it’s time I begin talking about the dangers of the internet and pornography but I don’t know where to start. He doesn’t have a phone yet and the computer is in the living room (With filters on) so I know he’s not searched anything up but I do worry that in this day and age it’s so easy for young teens to access harmful content

Two links are showing on my feed, but if the second hasn't come up it should be https://www.youtube.com/live/nMkzlY8-jSk?si=V-5eHhdWQp8K9Y2_

Thanks!

Re: actual sex - I think it's important when talking about consent, especially with boys, to emphasise the need to hear an enthusiastic "yes" - not simply listening out for a "no".

Young people often have a lot of pressure on them to have sex that they might not really want, or do things they don't feel ready for. It can be difficult for someone to outright stop and say "no (I don't want this)" to someone they want to impress or go out with.

So while "No means no" is a good start, I think it's far healthier to teach kids that there needs to be two firm, enthusiastic "yes"'s before sexual activity takes place, and ongoing confirmations that each new act is truly wanted there and then.

A good piece of advice I heard is to tell kids that if they want to find out more about sex, tell them to google 'Sexual health' or 'sexual health for teens' rather than 'sex', which will just bring up porn!

And also that porn does not teach you anything about sex in real life - someone once described it as 'like thinking you can learn to drive from watching a Fast and Furious film'. 😁

That’s disturbing

I missed the disturbing post thankfully.

I think I'll bow out now, but thanks (most) folks.