My son has been bullied on and off since he first started primary school. He was always "quirky" and never really fit in, the teachers were no help, because DS went out of his way to be different they seemed to think he brought it on himself.
I sent him to karate from the age of 8 to build up his confidence and it did the job, although he never made friends in school he had friends in karate, he got fit and he learnt how to defend himself but still he'd never hit back if he was picked on.
Anyway things have been a little better at secondary school but we've still had the odd incident occur from a certain group of kids that just dislike him. Again the teachers are not much use as they say DS goes out of his way to be different and he has to understand that this will draw unwanted attention
Anyway yesterday I recieved a phonecall saying DS had been in a fight and I needed to collect him. When I got there it turned out he'd beaten up two kids, one of them was bad enough to need a trip to A&E (but he's fine now apparantly).
The teachers said DS was out of control, vicious and violent and used karate on the two kids which is why one of them ended up with bad injuries.
He has now been suspended from school.
I'm so pissed off because he has suffered bullying for years and nothing was done yet as soon as he retaliates he gets kicked out and all the blame is on him.
How do I handle this? I secretely want to say well done but how can I do that as a responsible parent? What was he supposed to do if the normal channels of reporting bullying wouldn't work?