I’m a victim of domestic abuse from my teenagers

[Teenworry]

I want to start off by saying that my husband is a good kind man and has never shown any abuse towards me. He is unfortunately away with work a lot so most parenting is down to me. My kids are 16 and 13. My 16 year old Ds used to be an easy, kind and gentle boy but over the last year he has become addicted to weed and has become at times verbally abusive towards me. My Dd who is 13 has always been a tricky child but I think her brothers behaviour has made her behaviour so much worse. Tonight we hit a new low. I asked her calmly to hand her phone over to do homework etc. She got very abusive and when I went to remove it she struck me. I tried to get away but she pulled me backwards by my hair and shouted foul language at me. I am broken. I have tried to calmly talk to her but she has continued to lash out and scream at me. She has gone back to her room now and I feel absolutely gutted. Her brother heard the commotion but did nothing to help. We seriously need help but I’m not sure from who.I cannot go on like this.

Hello - thank you for your good wishes.

I am having counselling . I do have good friends . I just feel so sad and depressed and know I can't live with him anymore . I am just not mentally strong enough.

I know bad times pass so I keep going .

I'm dealing with the same no way to go out verbal abuse and control. I work full time can't afford to move out because tent is expensive also can't apply for council housing as I'm house owner. I can't divorce and buy as won't have enough to buy anything. I am in terrible state and help is not available when kids abuse you.

terminate her phone contract, you pay it presumably. Tell her you will be reporting her to the police if she ever behaves like that again. And follow through.

Get your boy either off weed or out of your home. Move if necessary

@Teenworry I've seen this thread because of the more recent replies but notice you've not been back. I really hope you're reading the posts and realise you're not alone. I also hope recent days have been better. 💐

This charity supports parents who are experiencing child to parent violence www.pegsupport.co.uk/

Have you got a brother, father, uncle who could come and stay until your dh is home?
Could you send your youngest away for a few days?
Tolerating violence in the home without consequences is very very dangerous.
I would have to put her education on hold and have her leave for a few days and decide whether she wants to be part of the family or not.

All these accounts of weed induced abuse ,reminds me of my vile Brother .
His weed usage destroyed my darling Mum ,even when she was an elderly lady .
He lives abroad but even from that distance he made our lives a misery .
Never under estimate how destructive weed is !
OP I would definitely call police next time without hesitation. Your children need to believe that you will not tolerate this vile behaviour ever again!