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Never picked for team

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Dipsomaniax · 19/10/2023 13:44

DS 14 plays football with his school. He loves football and plays every weekend with friends too plus after school training twice a week. However he is not usually picked for the team. The same boys are usually sidelined with him and he never says much about this.

However this time everyone but him has been picked for the next game. All his friends play so they will all be gone on this trip.

What can I say to buoy up his spirits which are bound to be crushed by this? He has a reserved character so wouldn't be Inclined to confide in me or anyone but I would be surprised if he is unscathed by this.

Maybe my view is skewed by the fact that another of my dc has depression and would have been utterly floored by something like this.

I think this is like constantly being told you're not good enough, which would be difficult for even the most robust of personalities. But maybe I'm looking at it in the wrong way. I have never played sport.

Anyway, I'd appreciate any tips for how to frame this.

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Legoninjago1 · 19/10/2023 13:48

Is is possible for him to have a chat with his coach, or whoever is doing the team sheets, to just find out why he's not being picked? Maybe there's a specific skill he can work on, or maybe it's because it's because they think he's looking to play in a certain position when actually he'd be flexible?

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