DS has always had challenging behaviour from ADHD and other SEN plus attachment disorder (adopted very young). As he has got older, his outbursts have almost stopped entirely. However, there are still constant behaviour issues. He did not cope at all in college and sid he did not want to be there. I had to remove him, as he just kept getting into fights with other SEN students and was not going to any lessons. His social skills are poor.
He stopped his favourite sport about a year ago. He had been attending for 6 years and it had given him fantastic fitness and and an outlet for energy.
Unfortunately, he was enjoying the activity but no longer listening to the instructor.
Most nights he's awake while early hours, which disturbs us because he's talking on the phone and up and down stairs for the toilet etc. He is using weed a lot. We don't give him any cash, he seems to be getting the weed from other teenagers.
I've spoken to him about it and he lies or says it's his choice.
Despite spending time talking about dating, building respect in relationships and self- esteem, he keeps talking to different girls. He immediately asks them for a physical relationship. So they don't bother with him.
He still needs constant prompting for basic things like showering and teeth brushing. Even with an alarm, he has to be told to get out of bed in the morning and promoted to hurry up. I have tried leaving him to do it himself and he justs sleeps and doesn't get out of bed.
(Even with melatonin). He left school with a few very low grade GCSE. He's on a foundation maths/English course that finishes in a few weeks. So he needs to be getting a job but I honestly don't know how he will cope with his immaturity.