I'm Mexican, so apologies if I don't make myself understood.
I don't use forums, but my husband doesn't really know any better that I do, and I just need to talk and think. My son seems to try to make us as mad as he can. My husband will talk to him for dinner, or to ask something or wherever and he will, a) not even respond and just ignore us or, b) after a few seconds or minutes come like he's going to do the most exasperating thing in the world, not even being overly impolite, but like wanting to do everything but that.
He had friends throughout middle school, and even went to a XV, but he's been alone for most of highschool. Each time we asked him if he had made any friends he said no. He was staying after school for couple of weeks with someone, but it was close to the end of the period, when they mix them up. And in this period we initially thought he was still staying with her, but he's said he's been alone again.
He makes talking to him almost impossible. He doesn't talk (platica) with us often, and we don't know as much as we'd like –need– to know about him. He talks the most with his sister, so a good deal we know because of her. But lately he doesn't even talk to her, and is even mean to her in a childish/condescending way. And he didn't went to school today, and hasn't showered; we both tried asking him about that, and just says –if anything– «uh, mother» in an irritated tone like we are but an annoyance. This is the second time this week he does that (he's never done this), and then he had told us he didn't have the first two classes, which we suspect was a lie, and got all to late to the one he had, God knows what for up to that point.
My father died recently, and I can't really handle him. I'm writing this to articulate the problem.
We know he's not stupid (when he talks to me the most, it's in a one way or another condescending position: to ask rhetorically if I know something, or to prove theorems; he studies a lot). But he's not attentive to school, seems takes any opportunity to do anything but he's got to, and has refused to show his grades. I'm worried about his future. At this rate we're gonna have to get him out of school and just get him a job, because even with how much we love him he's not contributing anything.
I'd really like to talk. My husband is asleep.