Counsellor for dd

[Borris]

How do you find a counsellor for a teenager? Happy to pay.

DD 13 told me tonight that she thinks her dad is emotionally abusing her. Not a surprise as he did the same to me.

She doesn't want to do anything official, nor speak to school atm but would talk to a counsellor which I think might help with at least processing it.

Look on BACP website- think you can filter for working with teenagers. Have a phone/ online chat initially which is usually free to see if she likes the person research states that is the highest factor in “success” of therapy.
I would also think about empowering her
not to have as much contact with him. Though it’s good to have space to process these things - alongside needs to be a validation from you that she’s feeling like she is for a reason due to her environment.

I agree search the BACP or Counselling Directory.

Thanks both for the advice. Yes I think less time with him is the answer, but I need to tread carefully as she might shut down if feels backed into a corner. Xx

I would be very wary of letting her be around him alone. Children have the right to be protected against abuse. If she is being emotionally abused steps need to be taken to safeguard her alongside seeking out psychotherapeutic help.

I do get what you're saying but we have had a 50:50 childcare order for the last 6 years. She doesn't want to do anything official currently so I feel my hands are tied. He will not agree to less contact or will ask her if she wants less and then she'll say no. I'm worried if I do to SS or anything, that she won't tell the truth and that she'll feel betrayed by me too