DS's friend being bullied. Would you tip off the school or mind your own business?

[mumblechum]

DS (yr 8) has a friend, A, who is being bullied on a daily basis by M. DS is also friends with M.

Typical examples are A's head being wacked against a wall yesterday, also a lot of verbal bullying, eg exclusion from games, being told to shut up, called names etc. DS says sometimes A has been crying as a result and says ds is his only friend.

DS has been friends with M for about a year longer than with A. Naturally, he has asked M to stop being nasty to A, but that hasn't worked.

Last night, DS says A was saying that he has bruises all over his arms and legs from the bullying.

I suggested to ds that he offers to go with A to Matron to report the bullying but he says A doesn't want to tell anyone inc. his parents.

Would you

a. Phone Matron to report it (they have a proper anti bullying policy)

b. Phone the mum (who I've only met once)

c. Do nothing and let them sort it out.

I would definitely do A. You cannot stand by and do nothing. Well done on raising a kind DS. Please act quickly - this sounds serious.

def A

I would have been in touch with the school first thing TBH.

a. Agree with LittleWonder.

If your son was being bullied what would you want done? I'd do A.

I'd phone his parents, and let her deal with the school.

I would talk to the parents, they need to know and take it up with the school

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A AND B

A and B

Agree with everyone on A and would really insist on the need for discretion, ie for your identity not to come up.

Thanks for quick responses.

I just phoned Matron and she said she'll get A in for a general chat about how things are going and drop into the conversation that one of the lunchtime supervisors is aware that he hurt his head yesterday, and would he like to tell her what happened etc.

She said neither my nor ds's name will be mentioned.

Phew, I feel better now.

I think that is the right thing to do - on the basis that your son is kept out of it. You need him to totally trust you, so that he is open with you.

Ds told me about seeing drugs handed over at school, and I mentioned it to the Head's secretary (in passing!!!), on the basis that Ds was never asked about it.

I'll tell him when he's 25 that I poked my nose into it!

I would do A and B

A A A

he is being bruised - that is v serous

A
definately.

just seen your last post. well done

Buy him a copy of this book!

bullies bigmouths and so-called friends

I admire you for phoning the matron to assist this child but please also phone his mum. If the shoe was on the other foot what would you want?