Last night my teenage DD (13) was unusually quiet. I asked if there was anything bothering her but she said no, however I could tell there was something not right. She'd been checking her phone more than usual and texting so when she went up to bed I checked through her messages (she knows I check her phone)
It was clear from the messages between her and her best friend that her best friend has been self harming. For context, from what I know about this girl, her mum has a drug problem and left the family home about a year ago with this girls older sisters so friend lives with her Dad. The mum has apparently been saying to DDs friend that she was a mistake and she wishes she hasn't been born.
DD only became close to this friend last summer, I have invited her over for tea/ sleepovers etc which she's been to and seems nice enough although painfully quiet and shy around me and OH so I'm not sure she'd take well to me attempting to talk to her in any way. I've met her Dad a couple of times but only to say 'hello' to when he's dropped her off or picked her up.
DD was very mature in her responses to her and urged her to get help, told her she's there for her etc but it's obviously a lot for her deal with.
I have spoken with her this morning and told her I'm proud of her for the way she's responded to her but that I'm also worried. We had a hug and a chat but I'm not really sure where to go from here, if anywhere. I know it's none of my business but then I feel like I should do or say something?
What would you do?