Am I being dramatic

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Jolewis87 · 02/10/2023 17:33

Hello,

It was my daughters first day at her new school in year 9. I know we were both feeling very nervous about it but it is a much better school than the one she left.

I picked her up in the hopes she had a really good first day. Turns out a boy called her a fat shithead. She told a teacher and the boy was removed from the next lesson.

I am now sat here worrying so much about it all. What if this boy and his group of friends are now planning something to get back at my daughter or they now start being horrible to her.

My daughter already lacks confidence and has such low self esteem. I just want her to be happy and get along in school and make a few friends.

Am I being dramatic and worrying too much?

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plumtreebroke · 02/10/2023 17:36

The boy may have learned his lesson, if not you and your DD may have to keep complaining. New girl is going to be a target for the nasties. Hope she makes some nice friends soon.

Flyhigher · 02/10/2023 22:35

You aren't being dramatic. But try to stay calm for her. I'm sure she will find friends soon. Do you know anyone at the school?

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Jolewis87 · 03/10/2023 06:39

Unfortunately we don’t. We moved to this area a year ago not knowing anyone and have been trying to get her into this school since. I’m hoping she had a better day today. I hate the thought of her going to school and kids being mean for no reason at all. It just sets her up to not have a very good experience.

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Steakandquinoa · 03/10/2023 06:51

There’s always some nasty people. Reminds me of the phrase “I know you are, but what am I?”

AnImaginaryCat · 03/10/2023 07:03

As you don't know the school or the staff only time will tell.

However one way to look at it is that it's a school that listened to the new girl and actually acted on what she reported. This means it appears to tackle negative behaviour.

This boy knows his behaviour was notice and there are consequences for it - plus more importantly he knows your daughter didn't silently take what happened.

Octobermeterreadtime · 03/10/2023 07:21

My dd was insulted on her first day at secondary. She threw one back and we still laugh about it now. Maybe teach your dd some resilience so she doesn't end up as anxious as you.....
Said with best intentions op...

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