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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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Teencrisis · 19/09/2023 20:25

I will start by saying that I have had a really horrible day and my dad has just been diagnosed with cancer this morning which has left me really devastated.
I think I have worked really hard to bring our children up. My husband and I have a loving and happy relationship. We also have a very close extended family. I’ve always tried to bring our children up to be kind and considerate to others. We have always talked to each other each night as a family at meal times about our day and I think I have always given our kids a lot of time. They were both beautiful children with great manners until they reached secondary school. I know teens are going to test boundaries but they are both so badly behaved and rude right now. My son at 16 almost seems unrecognisable. He thinks Andrew Tate is a great role model. He smokes weed. He swears at me and his dad. My husband is a good role model and will shares all jobs around the house but my son think it’s womens work. We have all talked to him about Andrew Tate but he will not be changed. Where the hell do I go from here? I keep hoping something will make a change . Tonight on the way to basket ball training he told me that he thinks drug dealers are doing a good service. I don’t have the energy right now to even enter in to a discussion.

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Linda42 · 03/04/2024 21:42

I am so sorry about her dad, this is the last thing you need.

I am likely the last person to comment or give advice as my own teen has completely changed into someone I don’t recognise anymore.

I think all you can do is what you are doing, providing a loving home for your children.
the drug smoking I think is your biggest challenge as I assume to smoke this he is out with friends and likely spending his pocket money on buying it. Have you spoken to him about the consequences of smoking drugs, legally and socially and that it is not allowed in your home?
if you stopped giving him money would he still be able to smoke?
I really feel for you, it’s not easy at all.

bingoringo4 · 03/04/2024 21:57

My son at 16 started smoking weed occasionally, by 17 he was smoking it every day and couldn't function without it. At 19 he just went cold turkey one day and hasn't smoked it since and he's 21 now. When he was in the thick of it he was horrible to be around and I thought he would never stop.

Gratuliere · 03/04/2024 21:57

Spell out exactly what Andrew Tate has been charged with - human trafficking and rape - and what the legal thresholds are/what this means he is accused of doing to women.

lifesrichpageant · 04/04/2024 04:33

@Teencrisis thank you for updating us, I am so sorry to hear about your husband and of course your Dad earlier in the year. What a time you have been through. I am glad that there is less Tate coming from your son these days but am sorry to hear he is still in the thick of it with teen angst. Sending flowers and a handhold. My DS is becoming a stranger to me quite quickly so I can really empathise. Good luck!

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