Feeling a bit useless in terms of what I can do to help my 13 year old son with friendships at school.
He seemed to lose touch with the friends he had at primary after moving into year 7.
He’s had a couple of new friendships until it transpired that they were using him in some way or just haven’t behaved in a way that you would expect a friend to.
Recently he thought he’d made a good friend (I’ll call him Paul), but when Paul was with other friends he would ignore him and the final straw seemed to be when Paul pushed him and told him to go away.
he didn’t speak to Paul during the summer, now Paul is acting like they can be friends again. My son is confused about Paul’s behaviour and it’s making him anxious.
(I don’t know Paul and have never met him)
There are other boys he is friends with, but he doesn’t know what to do when the boys are with their other friends.
My son doesn’t feel like he has anything in common and doesn’t know what to say.
I’ve suggested to him that if he doesn’t know what to talk about just ask other people about themselves , the usual things.
He does have a good friend outside of school.
He’s a quiet and sensible boy, but with a good sense of humour and a lot of fun with the people he’s close to.
How can I help him with his relationships?