DD 13 not eating

[Freezyfairy]

Hi
I don't know what to do she eat only fruits, jelly and lettuce with peppers in wrap, sometimes small portion of sushi. She started walking a lot. She lost lots of weight. Talks a lot about people being unattractive because they are fat. She refused CAHMS appointment. I really trying to do everything to suggest meals and other foods but she is refusing. What else I can do.

@EmilyBrontesGhost whilst I agree that you are right, making a fuss isnt helpful.
Neither is your "ignore it and it will go away" approach. In fact I would argue your approach is irresponsible.

Freezyfairy - I can highly recommend this book. It was the one recommended by other parents when I asked for support on this topic.
How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder: A Simple, Plate-By-Plate Approach(r) to Rebuilding a Healthy Relationship with Food : Crosbie, Casey: Amazon.co.uk: Books

Also whilst some would argue its much too soon to suggest such a book/approach - truth is its easier to fight and beat eating disorders the sooner you step in and try to break habits. Leave it longer and habits become more entrenched and harder to break.

Good luck Freezy. Ive been through this myself with my eldest. It was hideous but thankfully they are no longer anorexic (sadly another MH problem has stepped into the breach instead - argh!) xxx

Also - I forgot to mention, investigate FBT - family based therapy.

Tiny steps OP.

Talk to her about making sure she's getting some healthy fats so her hair doesn't fall out.

Try and get her to take a vitamin every day and get the most complete one possible.

Keep an eye on periods. She might like it if they stop but that would be tipping her into scary territory.

Presumably she's not eating enough calories. It sounds like anorexia.

All of those foods are low calories - jelly (sugar free) is about 10 a pot.

Please come to the teens with ED section of mn, your dd sounds seriously unwell and the advice to ignore this is dangerous.

Take her to the GP and ask for a full medical check including bloods, ecg, standing and sitting bp.

Ask for a referral to the ED Camhs service, you may be able to self refer.

If she's eating less than 500 cals a day take her to a&e as she will be at risk of serious health complications and needs to be on refeeding plan with medical supervision.

This sounds like anorexia, I'm really sorry op but please don't ignore this or think you can sort this out without support.

You’ve already had some good advice and I don’t think I can add much else. I’m sure this isn’t your priority (understandably), but if you haven’t I would gently tell her that it’s not okay to comment on people’s weight, and that being overweight doesn’t necessarily make someone unattractive.

I understand that it’s part of her eating disorder, but it’s not okay to project that onto others. And if she says that sort of thing in front of friends (particularly those that might be overweight) it’s not going to end well.

Besides that I really hope you can get the right help for her and that she recovers soon.

This is terrible terrible advice. Please keep pushing for help as per other helpful posts

I had an ED as a teen, if you want to ask me any questions. Around four years until I fully recovered. Scary time and I couldn't help it, extreme diets can VERY quickly become a problem and addiction

As someone who works in this area I would be suggesting a GP appointment for bloods, weighing her to see what her weight for height is, and referring back to CAMHS. Her eating is disordered and she's lost lots of weight.

Ignore anyone on here who suggests this isn't something to worry about. She needs an ED team assessment.