16 and girlfriend

[Carol52]

Hi my son has been seeing a girl for a while now . She has just turned 16. They are very affectionate towards each other so much so I mentioned it to the girls mother:
She said yes it's lovely to see they are very comfortable with each other I can see it at home??
I said to the girlfriend mum that my son can go round when she is at home . I think they are still very young and don't want to encourage anything happening the mum doesn't seem to care. My son knows where I stand but I do think the girl is pushing things. I have seen some texts the mum didn't want to read them when I told her .
I know this doesn't sound very nice but the girl seems to be reliant on my son alot for support with emotions as she doesn't like visiting her dad but won't tell her mum. She doesn't like her step mum. She isn't that popular at school my son is so she wants to be with him all the time. Even when he is with his friends she is there. She wants her own way all the time my son is easy going. There's a lot. I don't really know how to handle it I don't want my son to not tell me anything but the mother is annoying me with her attitude. Any advice please

@HerMammy - My mistake, I didn't realise it was only Wales and England where the law had been changed. I am aware of the countries in the UK 🙄 (Oh look, I can also post an incredibly rude eye roll in the style of a 16yo) I've spent too long with teenagers on GCSE results day today, but those in Scotland won't appreciate my pain

I could have written this! My son is so laid back but his girlfriend is so bossy and needy.
we have told him that as they live far away and rely on us to taxi them around come September we would put new rules in place as to when they can see each other. I went along with my husbands view of every weekend (she usually stays here) for the past year but I’m gently putting my foot down and reminding him she is not his only social life. Good luck

@LynetteScavo, the law has actually only changed inWales and England. 16 year olds can still marry with parental consent in Scotland and Northern Ireland.

Models a kind response --

-I've spent too long with 16 year olds today--

I don’t want him to think I am not there to talk about things. But she is SO needy At the end of the day whether it’s legal or not 16 is still young. Yes you are learning about relationships but as a mum she is just to full on and bossy. Can I ask Ruby how old is your son and his girlfriend

16 and it’s too young to have a really serious relationship where one of them is overtly bossy and quite frankly she can be really rude to him.
It’s our job as parents to put rules in place teach him about respect and boundaries (he’s a lovely laid back boy) working both ways! Up till now it’s mostly been us teaching him how to treat girls but this has been a learning curve for us as parents as well.
we are encouraging him to go out with friends as he’s constantly on the phone in his room which isn’t healthy

@Carol52 - I think you might need to start another thread about the girlfriend being needy/demanding/overbearing. That's the real issue here, not that you think they're too young for xyz, or that you read his texts.

Get out of their grill ffs. They’re 16 and won’t be perfect in relationships at that age.

It is absolutely none of your business. If you interfere you’ll push him away. If my mum got involved in my teenage relationships I’d told her where to shove it.

Thanks Ruby I think we are in a similar situation. Like you say we are learning all the time as parents but there need to be boundaries and respect works both ways. 16 is still incredibly young

Seems a lot of teens maybe posting on here! 16 is too young and you are being a responsible parent. 16 year olds should be focused on their school work to be honest and if you are paying for that phone you are looking at it. No wonder so many messed up teenagers out there with everyone thinking they are old enough. Keep your boundaries and let the children know your expectations. Well done for flagging this wish more parents were like you!

Thank you I definitely feel like the minority on here. It’s my morals and responsibility to make sure my children know what is right and wrong. So many 16 year old think they know everything. I sm lucky my son is a good lad at school and everything else . I just don’t feel comfortable about this .