Teen daughter dating bad boy again

[Dogears123]

My 16 yo daughter has started having hours long phone calls with the same boy that she dated briefly 5 months ago. From my point of view, they had a couple of very fun, passionate months together. They both were very keen for each other and I’ve never seen my daughter so happy and comfortable with a boy before. The reason it ended 5 months ago is because it became apparent to my daughter that he had some mental health issues. He takes medication for both ADHD and depression. He’s also rebellious and experiments with drugs. He implied that he might kill himself when she told him she was breaking up with him. Now they are talking again and will inevitably want to spend time together. What can I do at this point without her pushing away from me and finding ways to keep the relationship going without my approval?

Maybe you could express that it is good that they are friends and remind her that he could be at risk again if they became too close and he wished to end his life if she left/changed.
Ask your daughter to consider being certain that it is just not her on whom her friend relies.
Ask her to encourage him to make time for other friends and social networks. Remind her that it is healthy that they invest time and energy in their own separate interests as it gives them strength and autonomy.

Maintain mother daughter outings. Make sure you involve your daughter in visits to aunts and grandparents and encourage her to play team sport and keep friends with her usual girl friends. Don't let her miss school or have the BF over to stay. Keep focus on her career and prospects.