DS and Gf

[Basilandparsleyandmint]

So my DS 16 has a girlfriend of approx 6 months. She seems a lovely girl.
however they seem to expect her family and mine to have them both for tea on alternative nights.
I do t want this yet DS will have her here and it’s so hard to say no.
how do I handle this?
her parents seems very open to this and treat him like a family member but they are 16/17 and I think it’s too full on .
they are Having a full physical relationship and I don’t want Tom push him way yet feel they are dictating too much in that they will just go to her family as they are even going his washing if he leaves stuff there.

I agree with this. We are in a similar situation (it is not every night because of activities, but it is a lot), and I spoke to the boy's mom to align, it was very helpful to me and I think to her as well. We also realized the kids were not entirely truthful in order to maximize the time they spend together.

We are both in favor of the relationship, but our children are only 15 and very full on. It is important that they have some balance and space. We're happy to have them in our respective homes rather than out somewhere; now we've agreed on curfews and I think we have a solid basis for handling it when the new school year starts.

If they are alternating days then you're cooking for one less every other day, so you don't lose anything financially. I'd be supportive if I were you, it will be beneficial for your relationship.

Totally understand your concerns. I've never let my kids have friends over every day ...I need some peace in the house, but once they start going out with someone suddenly it doesn't seem as clear cut. I was pretty relaxed at first but I've decided twice a week at our house is what I'm happier with. Just when you feel you have parenting figured out they get older and challenge in new ways 🫣I'm constantly struggling to keep up