Daughter being bullied daily by boys

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My 13 year old daughter is being bullied every day by nearly every boy in her class calling her a pancake. And it’s also apparently repeated on the year 8 Snapchat which she is not on. She is adamant she doesn’t want us to say anything to school as previously the school came down very hard on different bad behaviour and it created all sorts of new problems for her. I am at a loss. I’m seeing my daughter worn down by this disgusting behaviour and feel powerless to do anything.

How long has this been going on for? Is this all theyre doing, or is there more?

Why a pancake? Is she flat chested?

Just tell her they're a bunch of divs and to take no notice. She could start calling them acorn in response.

Also, tell her to be wary of whoever the shit stirrer "friend" is who is telling her about it being on snapchat.

I had this. My approach was to go straight to the parents which I know many will disagree with. But school were doing nothing and is escalated to physical. In our case it was 3 boys. Two of the parents were mortified. Nothing has happened since.

Thanks for replies, it’s been going on for most of the year. Unfortunately it’s nearly very boy in her class so has quite a horrible dynamic to it.

*every
Sorry yes referring to her having a smaller chest
also conventionally she is a very beautiful girl - not that this matters of course - but she is now very very down on how she looks

Surely a micro penis comment back is all that's needed? Dd was once called something insulting. She threw one back and it stopped.

They probably just fancy her. Year 8 lads will pick on her if they like her.

I'd honestly tell her to talk back to them with a few choice comments of her own. But I realise that if she's more of a wallflower than this won't come easily to her and may well be impossible.

This is cyber bullying and actually illegal. The parents could land themselves in trouble over this as they are legally responsible for the phones being used to do this (no child can have a mobile contract in their name in the UK).

I'd get in touch with the police. I know that my local station have officers specifically in charge of this type of thing - they go around schools giving talks. They also deal with complaints like this.

Yeah it’s tricky because they will often surround her and say it so to tell them all they have acorns etc would need her to be pretty forceful and not she she has it in her. Although will try coaching her

Do the school have a pastoral support team? I know your daughter doesn't want you to speak to the school but you need to do something. It's there responsibility to deal with bullying. 😔

She might not want you to approach school but this is too severe not to I'd say.
How horrible and cowardly.
Your poor DD.

You can approach school and ask they go low key and say ‘You were over heard saying …’

They dont go on with Janes mums called …

Its not a new situation but my god why aren’t they bored already?

Those saying ‘They fancy her’ Gt real this is bullying … giving them a get out clause doesn’t make it right!

I would speak to the school and also the parents of the main ringleaders if you can work out who they are. Absolute little shits need dealing with.

Absolutely speak to the school.

Similar happened to me - all though for the opposite reason! And I told my mum a thousand times I didn't want her to do anything because I was scared of what would happen.

But deep down I was desperate for help. I was just too scared to make that decision.

Tell her she has a right to not be harassed and the sexual undertone makes it worse. It needs dealt with in the same way as if it were happening at work

Exactly this needs stopping in its tracks, little bastards might escalate to touching if nothing is said about the bullying and sexual harrassment. It saddens me young girls get this crap.

Thanks everyone, appreciate it