Holiday with teens

[Rosyleigh]

Any single parents been on holiday with just teenagers before - I honestly feel like I'm going crazy. Here with my 2 DCs (16,18) and 2 DD's friends (18,18) Definitely should have brought a friend/ another adult that I can I have a sane conversation with. I'm normally so relaxed and easy going but DD is being so uptight if I say anything remotely negative about how someone behaves/acts (for instance we have one who does a disappearing act every single time any cooking, cleaning up, putting bins out etc needs doing) but I'm supposed to 'firm it' and not get annoyed because it's not a bit deal. They want to be adults but 'need my help to organise thing's' because 'I'm the grown up here'. I feel like a teacher on a school trip!
So if I say anything remotely negative about anything. DD wants to talk it out with me at length to set things straight and then it turns into this massive thing, and it looks like a huge fuss has been made over nothing and I end up looking like I'm the most uptight person in the world when I'm honestly not.
Not sure why this post just need to vent and have a supportive word or two before I lose the will.

I’d just get on with doing your own thing and leave them to do theirs. Try to detach and step out of the role of teacher/parent and enjoy your holiday your way

Just go and do your own thing. There is absolutely no need for young adults of that age to need you on holiday, excepting perhaps some finances.

You have taken 4 teenagers on holiday? 😂
This is not a holiday 🙈
Good luck op! If I were you I’d locate the bar, fast , and remain there for the foreseeable.
If you can’t beat them join them I think is the only solution.

Just do what you want to do and leave them to organise themselves - if they ask you where the evening meal is, or why the washing up hasn’t been done, just pour yourself a glass of wine and tell them to ‘firm it’ because it isn’t a big deal. If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em! Stop trying to organise them, stop expecting anything of them - make your own meals and do your own thing.

I take my hat off to you taking 4 teenagers on holiday on your own. Hope you have alcohol.

Yes I should totally have made it clear I was happy doing my own thing, only they seemed to look to me as someone to organise things for them to do. For instance - I hired bikes for us all which was brilliant but needed me there to organise it with to hire place, picking them up and thinking of where to ride etc. It's like they are adults but not quite!

Next time they want you to adult/organise something declare “it’s not that deep” whilst shrugging your shoulders, rolling your eyes and wandering off to do something for yourself.

I thought it would be fine, but bitten off more than I can handle! Definitely thinking about my next holiday - with no kids!

Can you set DD and friends the task of planning a day out for you all? Whereabouts are you OP? Maybe someone could suggest an activity or place to go.

Well we are flying back tomorrow morning! South of France - absolutely stunning! Definitely coming back here with my own friends and no teens!

'holiday with teens'...now there's a contradiction.
It's no holiday, just the same crap in a different place!

I’m on day one of a holiday with 2 teens by myself. I’m about to pack up and go home. It’s hell and not a holiday.

Sounds like my idea of hell.

Book yourself a break away with your mates to recover.

Remind them it's your holiday too. Say I'm not cooking tonight. Tell them to go out together and leave you at home. Don't tidy or clean their rooms. 18 is an adult! Good luck.