Cannabis Use and I Want 16 Year Old To Leave Home

[badhappenings]

Is it possible - can I kick him out?

I am getting to the end of my rope.

I have seen parents try to stop their teens to see reason and stop excessive cannabis and drug use.

It doesn't work from what I've seen and gets worse and worse.

They see kindness and care as a weakness and just take take and take.

I am utterly fed-up and don't want the stress (it has caused me permanent ill health) and I want it to stop. I want a short sharp shock - you go and run with the druggie losers (literally) and put us out of our misery Or stay here and have some f...ing respect and a pretty good life.

How many times do you get walked over, or do you think ok this is a phase and it will all be alright in the end??

i have a complete aversion to dope-heads/druggies, and i have had enough of providing a nice home and all that comes with it (nice clothes, lifts, wfi, phone - you name it) and I've had enough. I don't want another summer of this.

Please give me your view (good and bad- i need to know), because I am not in a good place and I think this could be breaking point

Just consider that weed is legal for medicinal use in the uk right now. I'm a respectable late 20's woman, with a good full time job, a house, and 2 children. I smoke weed almost everyday, and it's posted through my letter box by a completely legal company.
Maybe the weed isn't the problem here.
Please don't kick your child to the streets, you're his only constant in life. If you kick him out, he has nothing in this world to live for. Things will only get worse

I'd threaten them with the police. Do they not know the damage the drug trade is doing? How utterly selfish.

What behaviour is the weed smoking causing?

We'll ultimately lots of people smoke and you might have to decide whether your aversion to drugs is enough to make you actually sacrifice your relationship with him.

What is his behaviour actually like?

Personally I would just stop giving him any money, including for work. I can't believe that, given how strongly you feel, you would still do things like transfer him money when he's at his friends, it doesn't add up.

Glad I found this thread today. DS (16) came home an absolute state the other day, this hasn't been his first time. We are zero tolerance on the drugs front. No idea how the cannabis has been cut so have been sitting down with him talking about it.

We syphon money into savings for him instead of giving him cash. Grandparents have been informed not to give him money for the fear of him blowing it on that crap.

We sat down and explained that it's disrespectful in the family home to be coming back in that state. He goes to rural places with a friend to smoke it.

Solidarity OP. I understand the stress it must be causing you. I have been having sleepless nights. Hopefully things are improving for your family.

Stop giving him money.
Keep him in.
But don’t kick him out. You will lose him forever. He needs help with his addiction.

Please stop saying weed is harmless. Personally think it should be legalised controlled and decriminalised. However the stuff is often skunk which is very bad for anyone with a neurological weakness. I have worked with many patients who are utterly funked because they thought its just weed.

As for kicking him out its not that easy. Where do they go.
Can you get Family therapy it's not cheap but might help you.

You need to start a new thread, you won't get many people notice your post here.

My son was a heavy weed smoker. I never condoned it and I just ploughed on with trying to make him stop. It was very hard going but he stopped eventually. He subsequently went to university and excelled. He now has a very good job. Don’t give up on your son @badhappenings .