WWYD with this mother

[Paxosnaxos]

My DD 15 has been friends with 2 girls for a number of years and not too much drama although last year my DD got upset about being left out of some meet ups and kicked off a bit (as in got upset and said it to girls) . One of the friends , let’s call her Ann, just moved on and they made up. The other, let’s call her Emma, has various issues including anxiety made a song and dance about it - can’t get over etc etc

I tend not to get involved in my children’s friendships but Emma’s mum is involved and opinionated. I just steer clear.

DD has been away on a school trip with Ann who told her that Emma’s mum asked her how she felt about going away with DD. Was she worried about her being difficult etc and then proceeded to basically rip my DD to shreds with the Dad and the sister joining in.

Now my instinct is to say nothing but I am quite angry at how a mother could basically try and sabotage another child’s friendship and trip. Would you also just say nothing and keep a watchful eye

That is such a tough situation to be in. Try to make sure your daughter distances herself from the other friend her parents sound awful Your right they are behaving horrendously towards your DD. Personally if you say anything you will land Ann in trouble. Keep a dignified silence but make sure your DD cuts ties. They sound like drama you could all do without.

You will escalate the situation & bad feelings by interfering & telling the DD to cut ties.
I honestly feel (know) it's bad advice.
Really do not hold grudges on behalf of your DD.
Most you should say is "I think her mum still is unhappy about what happened" & let the young women decide about their own relationships.

Thanks. I am inclined to probably wait it out but I’ll be keeping a close eye. Can’t believe how mean spirited some people are. I’m putting it down to the mother being over protective as her DD has a mild learning disorder but all the same ….