Pubic hair EVERYWHERE!!!!!

[mumandahalf87]

I really need some advice on how to address this topic with my DS. He is 16 and can be a little ignorant towards me, especially when I try to address something. Doesn't help that whenever I told him off as a child, his grandparents babied him- especially when I gave him a punishment for bad behaviour (they helped while I worked full time).

I am fed up of going into the bathroom and finding pubic hair literally everywhere; all over the floor, shower, bath, toilet seat. He's quite a hairy lad as it is, has thick black wavy hair which is worse for getting everywhere than any woman I've ever known! The problem is I'm having to clean the floor etc a couple of times a day, because he just leaves it around like he's oblivious to it.

SO, do I suggest he does a bit of manscapping down there, obviously I know to ask him to clean up after himself but I know he absolutely will not stick to this! I know body hair is natural, but my much younger son is asking why there's curly hair all over his bathroom toys and soaps all the time, and picking them off everything. Especially in the morning if he's used the shower before us and I haven't had chance to get in there and clean.

How would people go about addressing this in a manner that will be the least embarrassing for him, or at least feel less like a personal attack?

I don't think you can ask him to manscape
I'd take him back into the bathroom, show him the Punic fair everywhere and tell him to ensure that he clears up after himself.

Yeah don’t ask him to manscape just a bit of courtesy to clean up after himself

He needs to clean up after himself every single time. Tell him this! If he doesn't, well, then he's going to be inconvenienced when you send him to do it whilst he's halfway through a game.

Just tell him to tidy up after himself. Teach him how to clean the bathroom after use. Wtf would you think telling him to trim his hair is appropriate??

Just ask him to vacuum/sweep up and rinse the bath/shower after each use. Please don't tell him to trim his pubes, that's ridiculous.

I taught mine from potty training she to look behind them when they left the bathroom to make sure they were not leaving anything they would t want to find. Unfortunately it's harder to start this lesson at 16 but presumably there is no reason not to?

Asking him to 'manscape' (does that mean shave?) would be creepy and weird.

Potty training AGE

The manscapping was a joke.

He has been shown where the cleaning products are repeatedly. I make a point of cleaning the bath out in front of him. I don't know how else to make him take it onboard without being extremely blunt about it. It's not like he's blind and can't see it everywhere for god sake.

What is happening that he is losing so much hair every day that you're having to clean up multiple times?!

I think you need to be extremely blunt with him. You're quite a few years late but better late than never.

Sign on the back of the bathroom door, (put it in a plastic wallet so it doesn't disintegrate).

STOP!
Please leave bathroom clean and ready for next user!!

Or something similar - whatever you think he'd understand. Sometimes you really have to beat teens over the head with these things, (not literally, before anyone jumps on me).

@fancreek I wouldn't like to ask in all honesty.

As he's gotten older it has gotten worse. I'm not an expert on the anatomy of teen boys, but I suspect his hair is at the most it has ever been. This has been ongoing for the last 4 months or so.
I thought it would be common sense by now not to need to be told every single time he has a shower etc. Obviously got that wrong.

@Chocolatecoveredshitpig I actually love this!

You need my sergeant major DD11 who went through DH for a shortcut the other day for not clearing away all his hairs from the shower. She was next to use the shower after him and was not best pleased 👀 TBF he usually does clear up... dealbreaker for me long before we married.

put a dustpan and brush or DustBuster in there and tell him to clean up.

Please - for the love of god - don’t comment on what hair it is or what he should do about it. You’re kidding aren’t you, I’m sure you are..

My son is 16 and id be dealing with this by taking the Mickey without mercy. Or getting his twin sister to do it for me. She doesn't mince her words. He has been known to leave his shaving fluff in the bathroom sink. Her reaction is "oi, dipshit, get your pathetic bum fluff cleaned up. No one likes you by the way."

Just be blunt with him. "Mate, can you clean the bath /shower after use, including your pubes".

Repeat as needed. Job done.

Thanks gang. All appreciated.

@worktired your Punic fair made me cry with laughter😂

OP just tell him to clean the bath/showe after use.

Yeah that'll teach me not to proof read!

I had the same with my son and then I realised he WAS manscaping and getting it everywhere.

We had words and he was mortified and I never find any anymore.

Why isn't he cleaning his own bathroom?

If you dealt with pubes all over your home and in your space, all the time, it would not feel ridiculous. Especially when you constantly have to repeat yourself. It’s just another body part that needs to be maintained, for the courtesy of the people in your home. If your son was constantly forgetting to brush his teeth and you had the consequence of a huge dental bill, you would say something… Take care of your private parts so other people don’t have to. It’s not ridiculous.