My DD ended up sharing a flat with her uni boyfriend but he broke up with her and moved out and as far as I know she has had no contact with him since. She was heartbroken initially and then seemed to stabilise but would never speak to me about him or how she was feeling about him. I’m sure she speaks to friends, but I know she was hoping for a reconciliation and it must hurt her that he hasn’t contacted her.
She still has a lot of his belongings, things that he didn’t take when he moved out, there’s a fair amount of stuff including designer clothes and an expensive fan. I’ve got to move her back from Uni this weekend and I suggested to her that she contacts him about his possessions. She was very blunt about it and said that he’d get in touch if he wanted them.
It doesn’t seem right that she keeps these things mainly because they’re not hers but also because it might be a way for her to have some closure.
He’s a nice, decent lad and there’s no animosity between them, but it’s clearly a touchy subject. So I don’t know whether to suggest we leave his stuff there boxed up and let him know or just bring it home it’s us which I don’t really want to do!
Its such a rite of passage giving an ex’s belongings back! What would you do?