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Teenagers

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Mnts · 13/06/2023 17:15

Our DS (18) has been suffering with anxiety, overwhelm and hasn't been to school since January. He's had counselling for several months and seems brighter. He hasn't managed to sit his A levels, too anxious and missed a lot, couldn't study with his brain the way it was. He has a job but it's zero hours so has only done two days this year, has a couple more booked for next month. No plans for next year. We've said will need to pay rent and car costs from September. Have agreed he can work when he needs to for money, he has a bit of money in bank. He wants to be allowed out any, every evening, until anytime he chooses. He doesn't have licence yet. So far this year he's had two major injuries whilst out, first one while drunk and the other just walking around sober. DH and I work full time and DD is at school. What would be reasonable rules here in your opinion??

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Lovestodrinkmilk · 13/06/2023 17:48

He's an adult, so I don't think you can impose rules on when he is 'allowed' to go out. But you can certainly insist that if he does go out, he must be quiet when he comes in, not bring people back and lock the door properly. Similarly it's up to him what he does for work/how many hours. But you can insist he pays board, car, phone etc and does his fair share of housework. Make it clear if he's a pain to live with, you will ask him to go elsewhere.

Mnts · 13/06/2023 22:26

Thanks for the advice, all sounds very reasonable. Feel at wits end with it all sometimes.

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