Days out/ activities for 15 year old

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My 14 year old DD is bored. She's bright and self motivated at school and does a couple of sports after school/evenings.

As we live rurally, her school friends are spread over a huge area and she often feels left out as the ones that live closer can make last minute plans to hang out whereas we have no public transport within 15 minutes drive. All families in my area rely on driving everywhere.

She has a bike but nowhere safe to leave it if she cycled to get a bus.

She feels fed up and a bit bored and her mates aren't always the most social.

I've been trying to think of things we could do together (her dad and I are separated) but she's found reasons to say no to everything - music festivals, escape rooms, beach day, London, shopping, cinema. I've even offered to take her and her friends to a nearby town - but she said what will they do then? She hates shopping and the cinema and isn't that fussed with eating out.

I asked her what she'd like to do and she basically said - could I move house? I will be but not until later this year.

Any suggestions in this situation?

Recent trips out with dd's 15 and 16 last year included visiting a cat cafe in Scarborough!
The amusements again at Scarborough and there is a great crazy golf there !

Some teenagers will say no to most suggestions but if you just say on x day we are doing y and then do it they end up enjoying themselves. We wouldn't do anything if DS had the choice but he generally enjoy days out despite himself when we go on them.

She sounds as if she is being a little unreasonable here - the problem is all the choice. Many teens just do stuff like walk about town with mates in order to 'be' with their friends it's not that it's intrinsically fun! (we can all remember hours of 'hanging out'? Perhaps because it all invovles organising it's taking on bigger proportions than it needs to.

I would just push her and tell her you are dropping her in town and she needss to organise to see a friend.

At this age some of this needs to come from her - and it won't be perfect but it will be better than being at home or with her parents all the time.

This - we just tell DS what we're doing. He grumbles a bit sometimes, then generally has a great time 😄.