My DD is now going through it. They've been very full on from the getgo, each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend. Officially together for 6 months but emotionally involved for almost a year. A nice boy.
I've noticed a change in the past two weeks, he's been less available (blamed it on exams in school, but it felt off to me). Came to a head last night and he told her he doesn't want to break up, but "wants less contact". She knows what that means, but is hoping it'll pass. She's still besotted and a breakup will absolutely not be mutual.
I wish he would just break up; I understand it's hard - he's a 15 year old boy and I believe he does not want to hurt her, he's not being mean-spirited, just lost feelings, it seems.
She has tests in school in the coming two weeks. Even before, studying was not a priority and now I'm afraid she won't be able to get past her emotional state enough to study.
The two of us have had a rocky relationship for the last year or so, partly due to her disregarding everything in favor of her boyfriend and friends (including lying to us, lack of respect). She has good friends to support her through this, but how I wish I could wipe away this pain. As she really does love him. I heard her crying intermittently during the night, I've been crying too - as ridiculous as that sounds!
The one piece of advice I did give her was to try not to drag it out, as it's worse that way. It's easy enough to give advice and hard to take it, especially from your mother, I'm sure. None of her good friends have gone through a breakup yet (two have never had a boyfriend, a third is still with her first boyfriend).
Thank you for reading, if you've made it this far. I feel so helpless.