My DD is being bullied and I find it triggering

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I was severely bullied when I was 16-17 and I never fully recovered until a few years ago. My DD (13) is now being bullied, honestly in a much milder way. My DM is visiting but I've found the whole set up very triggering as my DM did nothing to help me (although I understand why).

How can I help my DD effectively? I try my best but sometimes it does make me very triggered/irritable.

Bumping for you, hope you and your daughter get the support you need xxx

Thank you! I already go to counselling and it's been good so far I genuinely think it most have been having my DM around. (Because she justifies herserl the whole time).

Listen to your DD and keep an accurate record of what is reported.

Read the school’s policy and use this when communicating with the school, to make sure that they are following their own guidance.

Try to make sure that DD has a good network outside of school with some positive activities/clubs/friendships.

it’s so tough. Xxx

Really sorry to hear what you went through and what your daughter is going through. @goodenoughmum88 has got it covered. My DS was bullied and sometimes he just needed me to listen and not try to 'fix' anything, and sometimes he needed me to act. Having a social life and hobby away from school was also really helpful.

Yes, part of our "action plan" included activities outside of school. She isn't interested in many, but it's a start. I've also asked her to move away from toxic friendship groups (there's at least two, in one, one of the girls is mean, and in the other one on e of the girls introduced my daughter to porn).

I'm so sorry. I was bullied too and my mum did nothing either. I acted out and she just said I was horrible and spoiled rather than asking me if I was ok.Took me a decade to recover really.

I have a daughter now and I'm terrified of her being bullied. It sounds like you are doing all the right things and your daughter is lucky to have you. Good luck