Cocaine??

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First time poster, please be kind.

Nearly eighteen year old ds. In middle of exams, planning on going to uni.

I have been told he’s taking cocaine with mates on nights out. He does tell me lots of his mates do it but he denies it.

He’s been moody, dismissive, rude, distant. I now see why.

gutted.

Is this just a phase? Otherwise he’s a sporty, clever boy with lots of friends.

He does have an underlying health condition and this is what scares me. I can’t let on I know without causing upset with his friends and this close to his exams. Do I just hope it goes away?

Advice please xxx

That’s definitely true.

Yes our situation so mirrors yours. We finally got help from Camhs and medication an antipsychotic and a diagnosis for ADHD and medication and she takes them so sporadically it’s pointless. Not even giving them a chance because it’s easier to hide your emotions in illegal drug high
The atmosphere here is toxic and quite dangerous, and to survive , as this has been a couple of years, I almost have to totally back away and give up challenging the behaviour. In order to have the strength ready for when, or if, she admits she has a problem and will let us parent and help her. Ours is too young to leave home, and I am terrified what will happen to her when she does, but when she reaches a certain age we will ask her to go as living here,and just doing what she wants, doing coke etc and contributing nothing to family live , just destroying it, is really teaching her nothing about actions and consequences.
Mine has since a young age never taken our advice, even when her actions caused severe consequences for her, so I imagine she will only ask for help when she gets to rock bottom
its a devastating waste of a child that was kind, clever and actually good at everything she turned her hand at - and yes we have tried the ‘ do you know what the drug industry does to peoples life the world over’ but she doesn’t care

Thanks all so much for the replies. I have read them all. Helps just to know I’m not the only one. Think the take-away from this is that there’s not a lot i can do until he comes out the other end and just hope he does, alive.

to confirm, his underlying condition isn’t his heart, thankfully. But who knows, his heart has never been checked. His condition is along the lines of diabetes and I’ve spent years looking after him and keeping him out of hospital and now he’s pissing his health up the wall.

appreciate everyone’s honesty. I also score that he’sa teenager and won’t listen to me over his mates, why would he 🤷🏼‍♀️

@wishmyhousetidy I’d it awful that I can’t wait for him to go to uni? This is killing me and I never thought I’d want my child to leave but the anxiety and tension at home is horrible 😭😭 hugs to you and hope these kids come out the other side and we can look back and ….. 😬😳🙄