She is 19 and started university last September. We knew that she was finishing her first year this week and was coming home (I thought). So I have been asking her when she wanted me to come and pick her up and take some of her belongings home. She said she didn't know. We have all been looking forward to seeing her. Then, today I find out that she's come home with her dad without telling me and is at his house and also hasn't brought any of her stuff home (room needs to be emptied by July).
She has been a bit short with me in the last week and I can only deduce that she's annoyed with me because she wanted me to bring dd3, who is 14 to stay with her for a few days and then drive back in a few days to pick them up.
I said to her sorry but I can't do this because it will cost £80 in petrol - one trip there and back I can do, but not two when we have other strains on our finances. I also have her youngest sister who is 3 to look after.
Dd3 (the 14 year old) is autistic and vulnerable so I wasn't happy for her to get the train alone, yet.
When I dropped her off back at uni after the Easter holidays, everything seemed fine. We said we were looking forward to seeing her and she was very warm etc. Usually she always comes straight back home because she misses her sisters and pets but this time she has been avoiding even telling us what's happening.
I feel stressed by this. She does tend to sulk when she isn't happy and won't directly tell me why she's not happy. I know she doesn't owe me a thing, which is part of being a parent that we all have to accept but it has made me unsettled that she appears to be annoyed with me and unwilling to talk about it.
It this just what teenagers can be like? I've tried talking to her and saying I wanted to know that she was back and she said that she did message me but it must not have sent(!)