DD17 has A Levels this summer, UCAS applications, and learning to drive. Last week she was rejected from her final choice Uni - I don't think it was a massive shock, but she was quite upset, and it knocked her confidence (despite having 3 amazing offers, one of which was far and away her no 1 Uni choice). This week she's failed her driving test, and she's just a complete mess. She starts her study leave at the end of next week, and is talking about never seeing her friends again (of course she will - she's planning holidays with some of them!), not having any friends anyway (she has lots), not getting any better in her weakest subject (I don't know - she had another mock in this subject yesterday, and she came out quite positive).
It's a lot at the moment, going into A Levels and next steps into the unknown and adulthood I get is very stressful, but the negative spirals and potential for self-sabotage is very frustrating, wearing, but also worrying. Her driving for example, was perfectly adequate, I've taken her out lots, she's been learning for 10 months and had many lessons, but her nerves clearly got the better of her and she made several big errors that reflect someone who's barely driven at all.
She seems to have got stuck in a negative frame of mind on her weakest subject - she needs a B, but regularly gets Cs in previous mocks and exams. She does work really hard at it, and her teachers think she's actually capable of an A, but she goes into assessments with a 'I can't do this, I never get higher than a C' mindset, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Obviously the exams are just around the corner, but how can I help her reframe her thinking? We spoke today about determination, realistic revision timetables, but also that it's not the be all and end all, and if something goes wrong, she'll just take a different path, it'll all work out in the end. She seems to really lack resilience, am I expecting too much? Is there something I can do to help her in this last push?