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AnIncreasingNumberOfPaws · 03/05/2023 12:37

We don’t need it so don’t charge our adult son and nephew who also lives with us. They are saving hard so we’re happy with that. They pull their weight around the house, give out youngest lifts and a bit of pocket money and buy bits of shopping when they notice we need a top up.

If we charged I’d say to cover food and electricity would be fair.

Everyone does it differently and these threads usually end up with arguing. 😬

BlueKaftan · 03/05/2023 12:40

Did your parents charge you rent?

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Hetty104 · 03/05/2023 12:45

Yes they did….. not much… just a token but I appreciate that now.

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Hetty104 · 03/05/2023 12:45

Thank you.

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caringcarer · 03/05/2023 13:06

Charge enough to cover his food/electricity or give him the option to go shopping and pay for a food shop.

Mephisneon · 03/05/2023 13:10

Personally I really don't understand charging rent when they are in training and education. It's hard enough and you're skint enough on a student loan or apprenticeship without paying out rent to family. Also the apy or loan rates really do tend to be based on a rate of family supporting the young person.

Did you or your husband pay rent?

LadyJ2023 · 03/05/2023 13:38

Not sure why you gave him a year off when he is working. Wether you need it or not it shows him how to be responsible. Me, my 2 brothers and sister all pay £80 a week happily I wish I had my own bathroom tho haha. If you dont need the money save it or some of it for him as a surprise one day. Last year our parents all gave us a chunk we never realised they had saved half of what we all gave in rent. Anyway none of us 4 wanted it back so we secretly booked a week away for parents anniversary and they've just come back totally refreshed ☺️

JazbayGrapes · 03/05/2023 17:03

I don’t need the money fortunately, i just think it sets a good example and I will probably save a proportion of his rent anyway.

Just don't. Let him save it himself. What are his money goals? Car? Education? House deposit?

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Hetty104 · 03/05/2023 20:21

Mephisneon · 03/05/2023 13:10

Personally I really don't understand charging rent when they are in training and education. It's hard enough and you're skint enough on a student loan or apprenticeship without paying out rent to family. Also the apy or loan rates really do tend to be based on a rate of family supporting the young person.

Did you or your husband pay rent?

He would be earning around £18000 on an apprenticeship wage come September. He does nothing around the house unless asked 100 times.I still pay for his mobile phone each month and his food. Unless he wants something specific.

I paid my parents a small contribution when I was his age. I can’t guarantee he would save the money himself, thats why I thought I would save a proportion of his rent for him.

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Hetty104 · 03/05/2023 20:26

JazbayGrapes · 03/05/2023 17:03

I don’t need the money fortunately, i just think it sets a good example and I will probably save a proportion of his rent anyway.

Just don't. Let him save it himself. What are his money goals? Car? Education? House deposit?

I would not trust him to save himself, he’s always moaning how skint he is, how much things cost etc etc. I did suggest he starts a small pension which didn’t go down well.

he doesn’t seem to have any goals he's happy driving around in his £1000.00 fiesta. Says he would like to move out, however when I opened a savings/mortgage account from the government he hasn’t put any money into it as far as I am aware. He’s happy to party at the weekend spending his money on booze, nightclubs etc.

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Hellocatshome · 03/05/2023 20:32

If my son gets the apprenticeship he has applied for he will be 16 and earning more money than me. Damn right he will be paying something towards the household bills. We will be starting at £20 per week based on the fact I will also stop paying him pocket money and his gym membership so it will actually be more like £40 a week more in my pocket.

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Hetty104 · 03/05/2023 12:25

Could anyone please tell me if and how much they charge DC rent ?
DS is 19 has his own bedroom & bathroom, just returned from travelling. He is currently on a gap year earning more than me. I said he could have this year rent free to basically go off enjoy himself etc. His plan when September comes round is to get himself an apprenticeship which will be considerably less money than what he is earning at the moment, so I know I will have a battle on my hands trying to get him to pay something in September. I don’t need the money fortunately, i just think it sets a good example and I will probably save a proportion of his rent anyway.
My DH thinks he should start paying now and doesn’t agree with my year sabbatical.

when I was 18 (18 years ago) my dad charged me £50 per week and I had to buy my own food. I was ok with that

JazbayGrapes · 03/05/2023 23:19

He does nothing around the house unless asked 100 times.I still pay for his mobile phone each month and his food. Unless he wants something specific.

You need to stop doing that.

I would not trust him to save himself, he’s always moaning how skint he is, how much things cost etc etc. I did suggest he starts a small pension which didn’t go down well.

He could do with some financial education really. Investments, etc.

Loria · 03/05/2023 23:28

Sounds like there's several things going on here. First, if he's not pulling his weight around the house you need to have a conversation about that. Second, re rent if you need it for household expenses then you need to ask for it. Although you've kind of missed the boat wrt this year - if you wanted money this year you should have made it clear at the start. It's not really on to change things now unless you yourself have had a devastating adjustment to your household finances. Charge him an appropriate amount from September. Appropriate according to your needs and his income. Third, where on earth did he find a car that only cost £1k??!! Have you seen the price of second hand cars recently?

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Hetty104 · 04/05/2023 14:04

Loria · 03/05/2023 23:28

Sounds like there's several things going on here. First, if he's not pulling his weight around the house you need to have a conversation about that. Second, re rent if you need it for household expenses then you need to ask for it. Although you've kind of missed the boat wrt this year - if you wanted money this year you should have made it clear at the start. It's not really on to change things now unless you yourself have had a devastating adjustment to your household finances. Charge him an appropriate amount from September. Appropriate according to your needs and his income. Third, where on earth did he find a car that only cost £1k??!! Have you seen the price of second hand cars recently?

Thank you. I will have a think re September.
He has had it a few years now it was 1.5k when we bought it.

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Restforabit · 04/05/2023 14:13

In no way trying to be critical of the OP, but I think this is why trying to use paying rent to parents when the child is in their late teens / early twenties is pointless. It needs to start years before that.

JazbayGrapes · 04/05/2023 15:44

In no way trying to be critical of the OP, but I think this is why trying to use paying rent to parents when the child is in their late teens / early twenties is pointless. It needs to start years before that.

Umm... what?