DD just hit puberty - help please!

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I'm not sure at all about all this puberty stuff - it seems such a long time ago for me! A couple of things are bothering me that I wondered if anyone could offer advice on please.

1. DD appears to be growing quite a lot of dark hair on her top lip - what's the best way to deal with it? She is only 11.5, and just doesn't seem right that it's happening at all, but it is, so any thoughts on how best to deal with that?

1. She's had her first period, and I've bought her some towels, but not sure what you do about swimming? Are there any that don't have wings attached, ie that you wouldn't see when wearing a swimming costume, or does she just not go swimming?

Any ideas, or any other advice generally would be much appreciated!

Do nothing about the hair on her top lip.

Avoid swimming unless she wears a tampon, towels would get waterlogged. My DD still doesn't want to try tampons and she is 14 now. There are a few good books about puberty on amazon.

is she self-conscious of the dark hair? you could bleach it I suppose (waxing or permanent removal is very painful)

tampons for swimming not towels

My thoughts are to get her to try tampax or similar as towels and school swimming/ gym are not a good combination esp if she is one of the first in her class to start. re hair on lip, if she is really conscious about it bleaching is an option though do it very carefully and leave on less than recommended.

Do nothing about the hair unless she notices it. Then Jolen to start. It is the worst place to have waxed ime.
Poor thing. I was traumatised by periods at 13 and having been well prepared for them. Tampons for swimming, so I would think no swimming for a while.

thanks. she actually mentioned the hair on top lip to me, as I hadn't noticed, so she's obviously quite conscious of it. don't want her to get teased at school about it. i use wax, but didn't want her to have to start all that agony just yet! might try the bleach if it becomes very noticeable.

Not recommended they use tampons for a while as the flow not heavy enough. So no swimming, however if really needs to swim during her period, put a pad in at the last minute, then change as soon as you get out. But not a good solution and really only suitable if swimming's her sport and has a race. With her top lip, perhaps a call to a friendly beauty salon re latest products that are gentle.

Get her to try tampons asap - buy her some tampax mini and get her to use them with a towel to start with, to avoid accidents while she is learning how often she needs to change them.

Absolutely no need to use towels longer than it takes to get used to tampons, and she will feel much better about having her period if she doesn't have to deal with towels.

my sd was 11 when started her periods and the por lass was very heavy right from theword go.
She could not have swum at all so when we went to usa on holiday i took some normal regular tampons in case she wanted to try them.
I explained they might not be easy to master and she declined until the third day of sitting watching her 4 siblings and 5 cousins all in the pool (3 of whom were menstruating girls)and she then came to me and asked if she could try .
half hour later she jumped inthe pool and has never looked back. I prefer her to use towels at night but she is thirteen now and has to use both as she is so heavy.
It really wasnt a big deal for her yet her cousin is 16 and still doesnt like tampons and will only use them for swimmming and like.
Just give all the info and let her choose.

p s my eldest daughter is a trainee beauty therapist and waxes all her darker haired friends lips,chins,eyebrows etc so it cant be that painful.

Tip: Don't let your daughter have a pair of tweezers and two hours to herself. We have a very 'surprised' looking dd living with us now....

depends on the skin type my mum wasn't keen on me doing anything with my lip hair - but i am dark so i was growing female spanish moustache - mum got me bleach it was even more noticable- blonde on olive skin. if people are making comments dont let her get upset over them becuase you want to ward offvanity until senior school - take her to a beautitician.

agree w. mears re swimming - tell her to miss that week.

also remind her that if she starts her period - the water pressure plugs you p so there wont be a river of blood n the swimming pool - it worries a girl this stuff!

thanks custardo. she is at senior school already, and half her class wear make-up! i was so . some of them were having leg/arm waxes at junior school! think a trip to the beauty place would be a good idea so that they can suggest the least painful option!

tbh if they have private changing rooms, would it be so terrible if she just swam without protection? it's only like a cut finger after all?

i let my dd wear eyeliner as the only form of makeup - and i made that conditional on her school reports being maintaned to a good standard